This all happened about a week ago.   So it’s not as super detailed as usual I guess.  Sorry.

So I was out and about with a student at a local VIP club on a wednesday night.  I was there with a really sexy pivot as well and it was a chill night.  I ran into Beckster and Mystel and we ended up chilling with their crew and joining their table for a bit.  Those guys are really cool and I’ve been spending more time with them lately.  So my student starts talking to one girl and I start talking to her friend.  I chat and chat.  Normal fluff talk for me.  Found out she’s from Brighton and talked about how much I loved it last New Years Eve.  My student leaves the set and I see him open a new one, so I stay here where I can see him.

I start vibing off his original target as she’s way cuter and for some reason I’m drawn to her.  I make a joke about how we’re a family and the girl in between us can be our daughter.  She’s like if that’s the case, we got a problem bc I’m fucking your daughter.  I was like what?  I discover that they are a lesbian couple.  I realize that this girl super reminds me of my hero Shane.  And I wanna bang her.  I get a number off the friend and go around the club to chat some more and dance with my pivot.  We are having a cool time and my student is doing well.

Later on I find Shane alone.  We are chatting and looking for my pivot and her girl.  I tell her that I know she’s gay but I want to fuck her. She number closes me.  Safe.  Other stuff happened that night, but this is the focus!

She texts me on Sunday and it’s so alpha.  It’s really funny to get pursued.  She sends a ton of IOIs, including thinking that girls are all drama and she should consider going bi.  Needless to say I am digging on it.  I call her monday and we meet up about an hour later.  I just walk her around and we have a really sexual chat.  And suddenly, hey we’re next to my house!  Let’s sit for a minute.

Now we are sitting on my couch in the dark drinking beers at 1pm on a Monday.  We chat and I verbally escalate.  Tell her I think she’s sexy.  Normally I have massive escalation anxiety, but I am just facing it down today I guess.  I try to escalate physically too.  I have my arms around her and snuggling is no problem.  But she just won’t kiss me.  She tells me that she thinks I just see her as a challenge.  We chill for a while and then she has to go somewhere and I gotta go to work.

We have texted a few times since then, but she’s outa town for a month now.

What I did wrong – Total lack of comfort.  I talked too much and didn’t listen enough.  Exaclty what Soul has been telling me.