It took 2 weeks of high angle text game to get a date out of the Author.  She has amazing blue eyes that pierce right through me.  I made some serious tactical mistakes in setting up the date, that will reveal themselves throughout the story.  I finally got the date when she said to meet up on Friday.  Of course Friday morning I read my man Tenmagnet’s post on Dating Amushes. This is one of the best articles on dating and date mistakes I’ve read in AGES.  I should not have let her set the date for Friday night.  It messed up my chance to meet and chill with the legend, Zan.

So we meet up at 7pm on a Friday night.  She looks amazing, except for she is rocking a mustache.  This is my personal pet peeve for women.  I have have really been paying attention since this date and a LOT of women are rocking cookie dusters.  I try to ignore these things, but damn hers was pretty much a Tom Selleck situation.

To be honest I was able to put it aside and plow through the date.  I don’t really have the strength to go through moment by moment of what happened.  Basically she spent the whole night picking at my frame.  I am used to major frame assault and tests.  Waht I am not used to is this tactic.  For example, when we went into the 2nd bar of the night I didn’t offer to pay for her drink.  I just don’t roll like that.  The girl has a high paying mayfair job and can support herself.  I don’t pay for a girl as it sets the wrong frame.  I don’t mind doing rounds like normal people.

She is like I guess you’ve never dated a French or Italian girl have you???  I was like what?  I have definately made out with both kinds. Hehe.  Anyways I was pushed onto my back foot.  All night she dropped hints about how she likes to date good-looking French snowboard instructors.  Actually, even writing this story is starting to depress me, but it’s educational so listen up!  So she kept pushing about how it’s classy to pay for a girl etc.  After her badgering I was like it’s 2 pounds to shut this girls mouth.  We need to focus here.  On a first date she was henpecking me.  I was doing something I didn’t want to to avoid a confrontation.  I should have stopped the date right here.  It’s a clear sign that she is a horrible girlfriend.  This tactic will only get worse.

Now I have already mentioned that she brought up her good looking ex-boyfriends about 8 times.  I never talk about exes on a date.  It’s a weird way of trying to demonstrate preselection.  I don’t need to do this.  I have an awesome life.  I can ignore a girl making comments about other guy’s being good looking a couple of times with no affect.  But she did it enough that it put another crack into my frame.  This girl was insidious.

Third, I told her I didn’t want to talk about work.  I really hate spending an entire date talking about my coaching etc.  I told her that I’m a writer and a life-coach.  I just didn’t want to spend three hours talking about pickup coaching.  For me it just makes a date boring.  So I changed the subject 30 times and told her again I don’t want to talk about work.  She would keep shifting the subject back to my work by asking a new question.  She just basically interrogated me constantly.  And when I would ask her a comfort-building question she said are you gonna ask me questions all night?  When she made this comment it would poke against my frame again.

Now individually I can handle each of these attacks. I have strengthened my inner game a LOT over the past 20 months.  Now I wasn’t ready for this type of frame war.  She came in softly, softly.  I didn’t realize any of this until I spent the rest of the night analyzing why I was depressed after my date.  I normally am happy after a date.  I love spending time with pretty girls.

Now if there is one thing I hate on a date more than anything, it is awkward conversation over a huge ass dinner table in a brightly lit restaurant. Guess what.  She needled me into that situation.  She forced us into having a bad date and then when it was bad blamed me for it.  She wouldn’t even kiss me and left at 10 to go to bed early.  I was never gonna text her or think about her again but she wrote me a huge text 2 days later.

So I waited a few days and decided to let her know that we are on two different pages.  Her text back was a frame assault on long the lines of “Of course we aren’t on the same page…”  This girl was a master of frame control.  In a way I respect her ability.  It’s just too bad that she uses it for evil.

So please take a lesson from my horrible date.  She boiled me slowly like a Frog.  Just took my frame 1% at a time.  The night before our date, I thought about canceling when she mentioned work early on Sat.  From now on I will cancel if I sense any trouble!

BTW drunk texting is so 2000 and LATE!  High texting is where it is AT!!!