Two weeks my mom was in the hospital for what we thought was a stroke.  She was really far away visiting one of my sisters, so I was feeling kinda down.  I called the two giants to come console me over a few cocktails that night.

I just kinda didn’t want to think about things.

So I drink alone for an hour or two until they get off work and they show up, but man they just wanted to talk about themselves.  The truth is I probably wouldn’t have called them at all except I just needed someone to drink with on a Monday and most people I know are trying to lead responsible lives right now.  Not that that’s my thing at all!

So we have some drinks etc and I end up back at theirs.  Both separately inform me at this point that I’m sleeping on the couch.  I’ve slept in both of their beds multiple times and I actually wasn’t really pushing to bang.  I mean I was genuinely upset.  The thing is I’m not the kind of man who sleeps on a girls couch anymore.  That guy just doesn’t exist here.

So I called a cab and I rolled out of there.  They straight up pushed against one of my boundaries and I will not have a girl in my life who thinks I’m couchworthy.  You must be joking.

Recently I had a similar issue with boundaries with someone over a work issue.  I had to be extremely firm and explain what my boundaries are and that I will not cross them or allow them to be broken, even for financial gain.

If you constantly let people move your barriers, whether they strorm through like a German blitzkrieg or instead use a battle of inches like on my Date with an Author, you will end up with exactly no territory.  People have a natural inclination to treat you like crap if you allow them to.  The moment someone stops respecting you, you have lost everything.

So start taking yourself and your boundaries seriously.  Decide what you will and will not accept in your life, at work and with your friends.  You will see major differences.

The 5 Types of Pick Up Lines.

5. The Direct Approach

This is the most powerful but also the most risky of these pick up lines.  It’s the equivalent of going all-in when you’re playing poker.  The important thing with this opener is that you need to have zero hesitation.  The moment you feel that kick in your chest you have to act.  You see a beautiful woman and you act on your emotions.  That’s the type of man who uses this approach.  You walk up to her and say the following:

“You’re so beautiful, if I didn’t come and say something I would be kicking myself all day.”

It seems simple but that’s the point.  This is the sniper of conversation starters.  You can modify the sentence based on your personality, but the structure is important.  She is beautiful.  You had to act.  You acted because that’s the kind of person you are.  NOT because you care about her reaction.   This distinction is very powerful.

4.  The Extremely Indirect Approach

This is the opposite approach to the direct approach.  With this pua opener you say something so far from a pickup line, that she will say something to you.  This is the most low reward of all possible conversation starters.  Most likely she will answer your question and simply walk away.  You transmit no information to her.  She has no idea that you might be interested or interesting.  Yet this is one of the most common approaches I see guys do in club after club.  This involves such lines as :

“What time does this club close?”  “Do you know any other cool bars around here?”  “Where is the bathroom?”  “What time is it?”

You have to say something AMAZING for your second sentence to make up for the weakness of this conversation starter.  It’s only a pickup line in the loosest sense of the word.  You might as well try something a little bit stronger like the next one.

3.  The Indirect Approach

This approach is very popular among pickup artists and guys new to the dating scene.  When used properly it is extremely popular.  It is the bread and butter of mystery method and many other similar styles of pickup.  The idea here is to say something that it’s so intriguing that it takes her attention away from the fact that your a stranger and instead makes her and her friends focus on the question you ask.  So the test for if a question is a good indirect opener is if girls pay more attention to that then the fact that you are a stranger.

Here are some examples of indirect openers (pick up lines) that I have used successfully more than 1,000 times each.

“Who lies more, cats or dogs?’

“If you thought your boyfriend was cheating, would you check his email?”

“If you thought your boyfriend was cheating, would you check his phone?”

The last two are very similar and the truth is that they are all you will need.  I have taught those two lines to hundreds of guys in different countries and they ALWAYS work.  They are super interesting and women love to talk about relationships.  If you only memorize one pickup line, choose one of these two.  You will spark some amazing conversations instantly.

2. The Situational Approach

Now we are talking about something extremely powerful, simply because it cannot be memorized.  The power of this approach is that you are reacting to your environment.  You have to be quick on your feet to think of something good to say.  I will give you some powerful examples here so that you can see how they work.  This is a more advanced type of pua opener, but if you can learn to think this way you will really change your life.

“Wow, this bar is really crowded”

“I love how everyone here looks exactly the same.”

If a girl sneezes – “Do you have bird flu?”

This type of opener is complex because it has to fit the situation.  The idea is to make it super casual and not serious.  Here you are just getting the first sentence out of the way and you are off to the races.  Each situation will be different so you want to build up to this approach.

1.  The Neutral Opener

This type of pua opener is powerful AND easy.  Which makes me think you are going to love it.  These are situational openers that you can pretty much use all the time. The don’t transmit interest of disinterest, which means you have a nice neutral footing to start from.  90% of women will react positively to these and you get to find out how she treats strangers within 5 seconds of talking to her.

The easiest place to start your conversations is at the bar.  I always line up behind women at the bar.  What’s the point in standing behind a bunch of guys?  You’re just wasting your time.  Once your behind some women, you want to say something that you would just as easily say to a man.

“Are you guys in line?”

“Are you guys ordering together?”

“I love how they have 2 bartenders for 500 thirsty people.”

These are all really simple statements but they will get you well on your way to a nice conversation.

Final Thoughts on Pick Up Lines

They don’t have to be hard or complex.  Starting a conversation is only a big deal if you make it a big deal.  What you really want to do is just relax and let your pua openers flow.  As soon as that happens, conversations will come easily and often.  As you know starting the conversation is just the beginning.

I hope you enjoyed these powerful pick up lines.  And guys please let me know what you thought of this post by leaving a comment or question below.  I really do love your feedback and it helps me get better at what I do – Teaching you Pick Up Lines.

This book is fucking awesome.  My man Joseph turned me on to this book last week.  I downloaded the audio, but today I decided I needed the words in front of my face.  I’m not always a good audio book kind of guy.  Don’t really know why.

But this book has me so pumped.  I jumped out of bed just to let you guys know.  It’s all about how to turn your passion into a career.  Lately things have been a little tight trying to make it as a pickup coach.  The truth is that it’s what I absolutely love to do.  I love every aspect of it.  I love posting on forums.  I love writing blog posts and grinding my twitter and facebook accounts.  I love it every time I sell an ebook or get an email from a fan.  It’s awesome.

That moment when a student first starts to see the Matrix.  Best thing in the world for me.  So I am totally inspired to keep grinding and trying to make this blog better and better by offering more content and even more honesty.  I want my brand to be based on my real opinion.

You guys saw what happened after Vegas.  I might have lost some relationships, but there is no way I can lie and say something is good when it sucks.  So there are going to be a lot more blog posts and my videos will be more consistent in the future.  I wanna deliver a barrage of quality content.  I especially want guys to take the time to post any questions or topics you want me to cover.

So please leave comments on my posts.  Email me questions.  I know that a thousand different people visit this blog every month.  And the only way to turn that into 10,000 is with your help.  So please let me know what can make this site even better.

I have gotten a ton of positive feedback from my previous post about photos, so here is part 2.

You have one or several hot girls ready and willing to take a picture with you.  Now you need to learn how to avoid looking like a dick.
Let’s be honest – most guys end up looking like dicks in club photos.  But before I start hating on poses, I want to talk about the concept of archetypes.  Just like there are personalities or looks, there are poses.  We know what a rocker dude or a punk looks like.  But also we can look at a photo and decide what relationship the two people in the photo have – are they brother and sister, lovers, is he an orbiter…etc.

The Hero Pose

I want to start with one of the most alpha picture archetypes.  Have you ever seen this movie or this awesome poster?  It expresses a few things.  The man is super alpha and the woman is super dependent on him.  Look how much lower she is.  When a woman’s head is at the level of your cock or below, well, the picture really speaks for itself.  This picture is actually a parody of a classic archetype.

Most people don’t know this, but it’s a parody of a picture of Conan.  If you are under 25 maybe you don’t know what I’m talking about.  But before the movies with Arnie, there was Conan the Barbarian – the comic book.  The guy who did the covers for those comics was so famous that he he his own damn museum now.  I saw a tv show about it.  It’s where I learned that he was the first person to paint this pose.

Here the woman’s head only comes up to his knee.  So this guy looks about 5 times tougher.  The good thing about reading my posts is that you learn about more than just game.  This is one of the posters that the dude in Unbreakable would have KILLED to have in his shop.  So we can see how a single photo can express dominance.

But this lesson is actually about head height.  The lower a woman’s head is in proportion to the man, the more dominant he appears in these pictures.  The original Conan seems way more dominant than  Ash does in his poster.  Also please note how the women pose their hips.  Hips is EVERYTHING – but we’ll dig more into that later.

The Love Pose

Now a lot of guys go for the WRONG pose in the club.  Or in general.  They go for a boyfriend/girlfriend pose.  Do not use a picture as a chance to look needy.  You don’t want to take pictures to post on facebook to prove to your grandmother that you have a girlfriend and you aren’t gay.  You will subcommunicate the wrong information when you do a love pose with a non-girlfriend.

Now look at the shape their heads are making.  Can you see the heart?  That’s right.  They are forming a heart with their faces – what you guys can’t see it?  Goddamn.  It’s really hard to help dumbasses but ok I’ll go the fucking extra mile here.

Look at it NOW!

If you can’t see the heart now, well, you’re fucking dead to me.  But seriously I want you to think about it.  What’s wrong with this picture.  Look how close their faces are but there is ZERO sexual tension.  It doesn’t look like they are about to kiss does it.  I mean obviously this is a posed photo, but that’s why it’s useful to study.  This photo was put together by a professional photographer and 2 professional models to send the message -”These Two Are In Love.”  And as you can see photos of love are NOT photos of sexuality.

Ok let me break it down. She is touching him and the way he’s holding her hand is either defensive or emotional.  What we want to see is his arm on her chest.  It’s way more dominant and guess what?  Dominance = Sexuality for men.  The real problem is the heart they are making with their faces.  His mouth and chin are as far away from her as possible.  The way their foreheads are touching.

Well, if you have ever studied jujitsu, they are locking together in a fighting stance.  If he goes in for the kiss, she can just keep moving her forehead.  It’s a pivot she can use to keep him away.  In this photo he has handed her ALL of his power.

In my last post I talked about telling a girl to stare into your eyes for a photo and pretend you are standing on the Eiffel Tower.  I realize now that a shitload of young pickup artists might start posting shitty photos like this one.  We don’t want to be emasculated, do we???

Now look at this next photo -

The Cute Couple

This guy is another pussy.  He is giving her more than she is giving him.  He is leaning on her shoulder and she is pulling away a little.  Now to be fair she might be doing this so that his photo can be in the picture….

How many of you think his arms are around her?  All of you right?  That’s because we have another standard photo archetype here.  The relationship.  The cute couple.  This is totally fine if you are taking a picture for Modern Virgin magazine and talking about how you bought promise rings and are keeping the Prom Promise but you’re gonna get married when you both turn 18.  Am I being to subtle here?

The main lesson to learn form this photo is that you have to control your energy.  He is giving her more than he’s getting.  His whole body is aimed at her and her body is aimed AWAY from him.  Now if she turned her head and kissed his cheek or at least faced him, the energy could equalize.  But this is the kinda pose you see ravers taking at 4 am with their girlfriends.  I know this because it used to be me.  Again the key word is GIRLFRIEND.

He can afford to take this picture with her because it’s his girlfriend, but if it’s a girl her met that night.  This pose will plant the wrong seed in her mind.  She will think he wants to be her boyfriend.  And we don’t want to send that message on the first night.

The Sexy Couple

The last photo was actually titled “cute couple” and this one is called “two lovers.”  This is an amazing pose and this artist is so talented that I am actually a little aroused just looking at it.  You know why this picture is so amazing.  First, her head is FINALLY lower than his.  I bet you guys didn’t notice, but in the last set of photos the girls were all equal head height with the men.  Awesome, they have an equal partnership.   And their pictures look like shit.

THIS is a fucking couple.  Look how much sexual energy there is.  His arms are around her in a protective pose.  But the reason this one is amazing is the way she is touching him back.  That’s right she is returning the kino.  Or reverse-kino.  Depends what term you use.  To be fair I say reverse-kino a lot.  I’m hoping that I made the term up as kind of a joke but who knows.

Also her hips are a little tilted toward him.  At least that’s the impression the photo gives us.  Her head is tilted TOWARD him and not toward the camera.  That’s sexy.  They aren’t posing for the camera.  This is a photo of them LIVING.  If you can get a girl into this pose you are a fucking god.  Girls won’t ever let me take this photo because by the time we are in this pose she totally knows that I will use the pic in one of these educational blog posts.  HAaha.  Acutally I would have used all pictures of me but fucking iphoto broke again.  I swear that program pisses me off.

The Aphex Twin

People who know me eventually ask about the face I make when I’m posing with girls.  I always base my photos on my man, Aphex Twin.  If you don’t know who he is, well then you’re life is empty.  His techno videos from the 90s were so fucked up.  He has one where he’s in a limo with two girls.  And then his head is on one girls body and then the other and shit.  It’s fucking awesome.

Anyways, now you fuckers know.  This is the face I always make.

Now i don’t always deliver it perfectly.  But this picture he looks like he’s on the line between sinister and evil. Put a girl on each arm and you’re like wtf does that guy know that I don’t.  He looks like he’s got some creepy secret.  AHahah.  So that’s the pose I try to stick to.  I ALWAYS do it in pics with 2 girls.  If it’s me and one girl I might do something else.  So now you know a little about me.

The Douche

This is the picture that I’m really worried about guys.  I have a BAD feeling that a SHITLOAD of pickup guys take this photo and then throw it on their facebook and call it social proof.  I’m just writing more and more to delay posting the picture right now.  Because it breaks my fucking heart.

Please try to ignore how chub that girl on the right is.  I had to google to find pics because iphoto is being a bitch today.  It’s pretending it can’t see my library.  I have so many photos that it takes like 24 hours to rebuild the library every time it does this shit.  So I’m not doing it tonight.

I want you to focus on the guy.  Try to ignore his bad fashion, lame beard and how sweaty he is.  The important thing is that it looks like a picture of 4 girls that this guy shoved his way into.  The girls all have arms around each other and it looks like his arms are behind his back.  I could talk about how wrong this dude is for hours.  (and if it turns out he’s on this forum sorry dude!  I found the picture randomly on google!!!)

Let’s focus on how this happens to young acolytes.  Your are working a 4set and they are like take our picture.  Your buddy offers to take the picture.  You don’t want to overstep your bounds so you just stand to the side of them.  I know you guys feel me on this one.  If his buddy had simply said, girls put him in the middle.  They would have obeyed.  (remember women obey photographers, we all do).

This is another form of ESCALATION ANXIETY – I don’t wanna blow the chance of a photo by going for the middle.  Well now you know that no pic is better than this one.  I mean next time it could be you i’m talking about on here.

The Still Kind of a Douche Pose

This guy is at least in the middle.  But you can tell these girls are taking pictures of themselves, not with the dude.  See how he’s leaning into one girl and pulling the other girl into him.  At least the birthday girl is having fun.  But again we have here a really obvious pickup guy photo.  This guy ain’t fucking either of this girls.  Not tonight.  Not ever.

Please study this photo for a minute and think to yourself, what’s missing.  Do you have it yet?  Neither of the girls are touching him.  The girl on the left is subconsciously pulling her right arm away from him and is actually blocking her body with her left arm.  Her body language is keeping him at a distance.  Her body is saying I will take a pic with this dude but I won’t kino him.  The girl on the right is using her drink to send the same message “Can’t kino now, hands full.”

I am actually pretty sure this guy is a pua based on the body language.  He is doing better than the last guy.  But there is still longer to go.

Let’s Review

There are three main elements in a photo.

1.  Head height

2. Energy Direction

3. Kino

4. Angle of the hips

The Pickup Guru

I was googling the word threesome to find some decent pictures of a guy and two girls for you and this fucking dude popped up.  I don’t know who he is but I saw this and thought pickup instructor.  I know I’m one too.  But hey, being able to self critique is really important.

You know what’s wrong with this photo?  This guy is TRYING to look like a badass.  Holy shit I do that all the time.  Not the time, not the time, let’s just focus on the lesson.  But seriously I bet I have a ton of pictures where I look like this guy.  He’s like a high-level douche.  This photo is posed.  So let’s talk about how it’s an INTENTIONAL message.

Most beginners will be impressed by this photo, but I need to teach you.  Sorry to break the illusion.  First of all, the girls are not that cute.  Their body language and looks scream friends.  Not lovers.  The girls are aiming inwards, but again neither girl is touching him.  They are all focused on the camera.  This photo is about the camera, but not about THEM.

Their is no sexual tension in this photo.  He isn’t leaking energy.  He isn’t facing them, but they aren’t facing him either.  The girls are pointing their breasts at teach other, not him.  If their hips were more targeted towards him, then it would be a much better photo.

The Upper Intermediate

I am really proud of this little dude.  I mean the girls are only so-so, but he is doing a LOT of shit right.  Number one is his left arm.  Do you see how it’s around the middle of that girl in the grey?  He’s pulling her in towards him.  Pulling a girl in between her ribs and ass is perfect.  It’s not sexual for him, but it redirects her hips towards him.  This creates a POWERFUL sexual energy.  His right arm is around the little girl in front.  Honestly guys, this is a REALLY great photo to memorize.  So if you only learn one thing, just try to copy this guy.  He’s not using his hands to sneak some ass or boob off either girl.  He’s controlling both of them and bringing them close to his body in different ways.

Now look how the little girl is holding on to him. That shows that he’s alpha to her.  We want to see girls touch back.  The girl on the right is touching him with her breasts.  She is holding her arms back so they don’t block the shot.  She wants the camera to see her boobs touching him.  This is really solid.

He is facing the camera and controlling them.  This is really good.  The girls are leaning against him or aiming their hips against his.  And their heads are lower than his in this photo.  All of this is money.

Again, please focus on the body language and the angles, not on how attracted you are to these girls.  (or to him).

The advanced

I almost don’t want to make any comments on this photo.  Everything is perfect.  All energy is directed toward him.  She is kissing him, her breasts are touching him and her hips are aimed at him.  She is clutching his arm.  Yet he is facing the camera.  This guy is money in the bank.  I just saw this picture and wanted to post it.  This is a girl who is VERY attracted to a man.

The I Don’t Give a Fuck

This is a good photo of a power couple. They are saying.  Go ahead and take our picture, but fuck you.  This is another way you can go if you want.

This photo is good because they have matching expressions.  And you can see a lot of boob.  I guess these two people are famous, but the point is how they have parity.  It’s a powerful photo.

The Best Photo Of ALL Time

This photo is really complicated.  Let me try to break it down.  Let’s start with the fact that he fucking looks like me in 5 years and she is smoking hot.  This immediately makes me think, this guy is either French or rich.  What I love is that he is ignoring the camera.  She is totally vamping for it, but it looks like he doesn’t know it’s there.  Or he just doesn’t care.

She is trying really hard (successfully) to be really sexy.  But notice how her sexiness is in reference to him.  She has her arms around him in a way that says don’t touch my man.  She is marking her territory. She is touching him with both hands.  He is only touching her with one.  On the ass.  Underwater.  This guy is my fucking hero.

If you guys have questions about this photo or any of the other ones, please ask.  Asking a question doesn’t mean you’re dumb, it means my explanation wasn’t clear enough.  And I really do want people to learn from these.  I mean I have been working on this one for over an hour now.

Good Kiss Bad Kiss

Can you tell which one is which.  Hitch got a lotta shit wrong in his movie but the idea that a kiss is 90/10 is really strong.  Which picture is sexier?  The guy on the left is taking 110.  The girl is fully on the defensive.  And because of that the photo is ruined with her fat hands.  The one on the right is a classic picture that makes every girl wet.  It’s fucking Gone with the Wind you assholes.

But for real, he is towering over her.  Her hands are on his chest.  But he’s letting her have that final 10%.  Sexuality isn’t about total control of a woman.  It’s about leaving her some room to be sensual.

Conclusion

I hope you guys were able to learn something from these photos.  I tried to cover the spectrum from terrible to powerful and explain the mindset I go through when I’m taking a picture.  If you look at the pic of me I posted in part ONE where two girls are licking me, you’ll notice the Aphex Twin face.  And that pic is 2 years old.  I just love getting away with shit.

So with pictures just have an idea of the final product.  And work towards it.  I don’t want you to overthink your photos, just have a plan for how to make them better and better.  Remember, pull her HIPS towards you.  It will actually alter her whole body language.

I love you fuckers.

So I have been seeing a Welsh girl for a few weeks.  Think I’ve mentioned her a few times.  She doesn’t kiss til the 3rd date.  After our 2nd date she stopped returning my texts.  It took me a full week to notice.  So I sent her a message asking if she’d stopped returning my texts.  I didn’t feel anything.

A few years ago I would have stressed over every single unreturned text.  Now I send out a couple hundred messages a week to girls and mates, so one can slip through the cracks.  It takes me a long time to notice if someone is actively trying to pull away.

No idea why it ended with her.  I wish I could say that I cared, but I’m already on to the next girl.  It’s kind of a shame how girls become so replaceable after a time.  If I leave my house I meet someone beautiful.  I don’t know if this is a good or a bad thing.  I don’t pursue relationships like I used to.

I am such a jerk. Yet again I have gone three weeks without posting. Or maybe it’s just two. But the problem has become that I am living way too fast. I have had no breaks in my life. So much is happening that I get cripplingly behind. And I apologize for that. I will give you some highlights and try to keep you bastards happy. I am dating two girls right now, although I have slept with neither and only kissed one. The relationships are great as I see each girl every 1-2 weeks.

Both of the girls are beautiful and amazing in different ways. I really enjoy spending time with them and with how crazy my life is, I don’t want or need to rush into anything. I am seeing one of them tonight and one of them friday. I will post more details soon. Both of them know what I do for a living.

I also went to Austria for five days to a big music festival. I was the only American there. I met some really cool people and that was the best part for sure. The music was good, but it wasn’t trance, my true first love. I saw Deadmau5, who is on my dj list for this year. He was awesome. He came out in a leather suit and giant mouse head. I will try and post some of my videos soon.

My diet is going good as I hit 18.5% body fat last nite.  I am pretty pumped about that.  Gotta go hit the gym for squats in a few minutes.  Not excited about that!

Book sales are going ok and I am very busy with students right now.  So overall my business is a good thing.  I just want to have a lot to write for you guys!!!

Things with the Tunisian girl ended a few weeks ago. Unlike most of my relationships it did not end with a bang but a whimper. I wish this was going to be an interesting story but it’s not. Basically, she felt I wasn’t ‘there for her’ enough. She would get upset about her school work and want to bitch at me online about it, so I would stop chatting. I mean really. I don’t want to fall into my old oneitis patterns, do I? The I wasn’t online for one week. I just partied a lot and we didn’t chat. So when I saw her the next week and asked how she was doing, she got mad and said she didn’t believe I cared. It’s pretty amazing that any girl can turn into a psycho for no reason. I mean we weren’t even in any form of relationship and she got needy and annoying. So now you know the end of my adventure. I still need to finish writing the actual tale though.

We have all been there.  We finally go in for the kiss and it all goes wrong.  It’s time to point out the really bad types of kissers out there!  These are all things I have personally experienced, so I KNOW they are out there.

1. The giant mouth - This is the person who opens their mouth as wide as possible, often absorbing your chin or nose.  Your face gets slimed.  And they don’t even realize they are doing it.

2. The tiny mouth – This person barely opens their mouth.  They make you feel like a giant mouth.  No matter what you do you can’t get your tongue past those gates.  Then they ask you why you don’t french kiss more.  Trying to slip your tongue in is like trying to clear a drain.

3. The biter - I feel like this one explains itself.  They get scared or nervous and bite you.  Right on the lip.  Some girls even bite on purpose because they’ve seen it in a movie.  But when it’s a proper bite, it hurts!

4. All teeth – I never thought this could possibly exist until I met a woman who did it.  She would pull back her lips like a horse and meet my lips with her teeth.  It was like kissing mister Ed.  It was unfixable.

5. The Assault – This person sends in their tongue like a special forces strike team.  The shove it in deep and wild, the moment your lips touch.  They show no mercy as their assault on your tongue.  It’s rough and brutal.

6. The Hoover -They form a seal as fast as possible and just suck your tongue into their mouth.  It hurts and makes it hard to breathe.  If the girl is strong enough, she can really stop your breathing.

7. The Blocker - She shoves her tongue into your throat.  And holds it there.  She understands the concept of french kissing, but not the application.

8. Lost in the Woods – This is a girl who can’t tell a nose from a mouth and just gets your nose into her mouth and starts slurping away.

9. The Lip Sucker – (This happened to Tynan)  The girl immediately sucked his lower lip into her mouth and sucked on it so hard it really hurt.  The next day his lip was three times normal size.

Today I was feeling a little down.  The bank is taking ages with my student loan check and it's messing up my finances you know?  So I was on the phone with the whole bank.  It's been three weeks and they said it could be another five.  Had to talk to my dad on the phone.  Anyways, it will sort out.  Then I was talking to one of my friends from Austria and it reminded me of how they made me paranoid about my body.  And then a girl pops online. 

I met a smoking hot girl with Stickler a full year ago.  It was the first time I met Sheriff and I remember every detail of the set.  The girl was insanely beautiful and we were working her and her friend.  Then her boyfriend came back. I just ignored her and talked to him.  We even got some pics of all three of us.  I got her facebook and emailed her.  She is one of the hottest girls I've met in the last year. 

She replied to that initial email just last week.  I was so surprised.  What's amazing is the detail with which I can remember meeting her.  Tells you about the impression she made.  Polish.  Insanely beautiful.  I still remember where she works.  I never remember that!

So we are chatting on im tonight and I am trying to play it cool. She brings up "so when are we gonna go out"…Actually I could copy and paste the whole conversation, but I think it would be boring.  Long story short we are going out Friday.  I'm feeling pretty good again.

I just hope that she doesn't flake or this will become an embarassing post.  Haha.

A lot of guys spends years “learning pickup” online.  They can’t quite clock on to why, after years of reading, nothing has changed.  I sometimes run into these guys in London and it makes me really sad.  I get caught up wishing I had more progress than I do, but I would be devastated if I was doing something for years with no progress.  They lack the ability to see exactly why they aren’t getting any better.  There has been a recent debate on the forum for London that put this in my mind.  The forum wants to keep “commercial guys” from posting.  So they are doing everything they can to keep those guys from posting advice or offering free seminars.

Now this is totally illogical.  It means that most of the really skilled people will stop posting on that forum.  I already have.  I will post my advertisement there once a month, but that’t it.  It is clearly a case of the blind leading the blind.  Guys with low ability want to give each other advice.  And the want to keep quality advice from me and the guys I look up to, off their forum.  It’s sad more than anything else.  I noticed the guys leading the charge againt the professionals happen to be the worst guys in all of London skillwise.   Some of the guys posting have been trying to learn about women for 4 years and still haven’t gotten a date.  It makes me sad.

So now you have a little background.  Lets live in the present.  I got good with women faster than most of the guys out there.  Now I do know some guys who got better faster than me and I know what they did differently. I will start with things NOT to do and then work into the things you should do.

1. Stay off the internet.  After a few months every guy who is getting good realizes that advice online is usually worth what you pay for it.  Most of the guys who post on forums and websites are keyboard jockeys.  They spend hours online giving advice based on little or no experience.  I see this every day on the London forums.  A constant slew of bad advice and new guys just can’t tell.

2. Don’t read every ebook and watch every video.  You should start off selecting one system or method as your foundation.  Obviously I recomend my system as it’s the easiest one to learn that I’ve encoutered so far.  You want to simply stick with your first system for at least 2 months.  It will provide you with a foundation and as a beginner you don’t need to try everything out just yet.

3. Don’t give advice.  It’s easy to read a few ebooks and articles and go out with your mates and spend the night coaching them on what to do.  All you will do is make your friends good.  You only have authority when you are teaching people what you have already mastered.

4. Get a good wing.  This is crucial.  Hang out with guys of equal or better skill who inspire you.  Guys who motivate you to approach and talk to women.

5. Go out 4 nights a week.  Every week.  For six months.  This is my number 1 secret to success.  Nothing you read or watch will ever match the value of infield experience.  You need to learn by doing.  There is no other choice.  So do it.

6. Do 2000 sets.  After you have approached 2000 women you can start to assess your system and methods.  The first 2000 do not count.  Remember that it takes time to change your body language and behaiours.  It just does.

7. Don’t hang out with guys who don’t make you better.  If you have friends who are discouraging you, don’t hang out with them during this crucial time.  When we are changing is when we are most vulnerable.  Your normal defensive shields will be down and comments that used to no bother you will now cut to the quick.

8. Cycle upward.  Reward yourself for each little success along your journey.  You have to retrain your brain.  If you punish yourself for what you didn’t do, you will add years to your learning process.  If you can reward each little step along the way though, you will learn so fast.  Talk to your fist girl.  Be proud.  Got a number, celebrate.  Etc.

These are some of the basic steps for getting better with women fast.  I got into more detail in my ebook obviously, but this should give you some basic foundational concepts.