Over the past few years, I’ve done my fair share of exploration on Nashville dating sites. My experiences have been good, bad and interesting at the very least. Some say that online dating is for people that can’t meet someone of quality in real life. Others will tell you that it’s a great way for busy professionals that don’t have much time to get out to meet someone.
It has been my experience that both are true. Sure, there are a few hogs that take flattering pictures with the camera above their heads to hide their massive frames, but there are also some really sweet and beautiful women with good heads on their shoulders that are either too busy or see themselves as having outgrown the bar and club scene that are dying to meet a quality guy.
Ideally, as a man, you want to fall into the latter category. Let’s face it: whether you’re on a dating site in Nashville or in California, if you don’t have the skills to close the deal in real life, all the tricks and techniques for getting a woman to meet you from the internet won’t do shit for you if you don’t know what to do once you’ve got her.
That being said, let’s talk about profiles. Too many guys are falling into the trap of putting up what I call, “boyfriend resumes.” A boyfriend resume is when a guy talks about his job, his car, hell, even his personality traits. Don’t worry if this is you. Just about every guy to fill out one of those things online has fallen into it.
“I’m a pretty laid back guy. I’ve worked really hard to become a senior programmer for X company. It’s a pretty cool job with good benefits. My friends say I’m the life of the party….blah blah blah”
That’s a pretty extreme example of lame. While that approach will work if you have movie star looks and money, for the rest of us, a boyfriend resume will get nothing more than an outbox full of “unread deleted” messages.
Ok, so now that I’ve covered what NOT to do, let’s talk about how to be successful with online dating sites.
SCREENING
Besides having good pictures, this is hands-down one of the most effective ways to stand out and get noticed on a dating site. It’s more or less the polar opposite of the dating resume approach that most guys take.
See, most guys on dating sites come across as the pursuers, when they need to be coming across as the ones being pursued. But how to do that with text? Simple. Write your profile like you were an employer looking for help!
“I’m not looking for someone to “complete” me. I’m already pretty well-balanced and happy with my life. What I would like is a companion, someone that COMPLEMENTS me. A fun girl that can keep up with my busy lifestyle.
“You know how you hear people say that they hate drama, but really turn out to be drama magnets? Please don’t be that person. I’ll say it right now: I DON’T DO DRAMA. Be confident, be chill, be fun, be easy to talk to. Think that’s you? Let’s chat!”
See the difference? The first example puts the woman in the position of selector, whereas the second example gives potential women something to STRIVE for.
Women love a challenge. Be that for them and they will LOVE you for it.
More to come in my new book, “The Politically Incorrect Man’s Guide to Online Dating and Fornicating!” Coming Soon!
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