Jonny Soporno gave a talk to the Rockstars last night.  I met him Saturday night out with his bootcamp students, so I already had a pretty strong impression of him.  I was exhausted last night from my new job and I almost bowed out, but in the end the prospect of some time with Vercetti and 5.0 compelled me.

Jonny doesn’t teach any outer game.  It’s pure inner game and theory.  He has a strong view of the world that is very non-traditional.  He isn’t ashamed of how he feels or his lifestyle.  He talked a lot about how women in our society are trapped between being a slut and a whore.  Either they give away too much sex for free and they are a slut or they charge for it and they are a whore.  It’s a strange cultural double-bind.  It was all very interesting.

It’s very important that we focus on creating our own happiness in life and that we don’t try to make others happy.  We simply don’t have that power.  In most languages responsibility and authority are the same word.  I didn’t know this and I studied latin for three years and even won a latin medal in high school.  So often in life we try to fix problems that we don’t have the authority to fix.  It reminded me of an article TenMagnet wrote about how he got into game.  In his relationship he felt compelled to try and fix his girlfriend and make her happy.  He never could.  He wasn’t in charge of her happiness.  She was.

If you think about it, emotions don’t really exist outside of our heads.  You can’t buy a box of happiness or a bag of sadness.  These are things that we create.  I can decide to be happy with how much weight I’ve lost or sad with how much I haven’t lost yet.  Just yesterday several people called me fat.  Then 5.0 defended me and said how amazing I look compared to when he met me.  Because he knows me, he could see the process and the path and the success.  Emotions are all a matter of perspective.  The same event makes two people have two totally different responses.

Jonny also only believes in open relationships.  I am not sure how much i agree with this part of his philosophy and hopefully the other guys will write more on it.  I was more interested on how seriously he takes fatherhood.  He said that the main priority of parents is to provide their children with a happy home.  Their second priority is to keep children away from an unhappy home.  Of all the things, he spoke about this with the most emotion and conviction.  He also said that if you raise a child for 15 years and then find out that it’s not yours because you can’t donate an organ, you can’t say that it’s not your child.  Because in it’s universe, you are its father and changing that would devastate any child.

Even though his worldview is different from other people’s, it is not amoral.  He simply subscribes to a different set of morality.  He also talked about how science is a form of religion.  Nobody actually knows how gravity works.  We can keep using more complex terms to describe it, even down to the molecular level.  We simply don’t know.  I have subscribed to this theory for a long time.  I am quite religious and I feel like scientists are the new priests.  I could go on about this for ages….

There was a ton more information, but this is what I absorbed.  He has a ton of free information on his website.  Six hours of lectures that are more than worth watching.  You gotta take notes while you watch.  This stuff is super deep.  Unfortunately, we ran out of time last night and I barely caught the last train.  If I wasn’t working today, I would have stayed for ages.  I know that Jonny and Harlequin are really close.  And anyone who knows me or knows of me knows that HQ is one of my favorite guys out there.  He’s off in Japan right now tearing it up and I can’t wait to hear about all of his adventures.  I also met a friend of Jonny’s who runs an NLP company and I will write more about my chat with him from Saturday night real soon.