Should you Get Your Ex Back?
It’s really amazing how many guys jump onto google and search for “how to get your ex back”. There are a lot of people who want to reconnect with their ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend. It’s a tough world out there and often when we don’t know what to do, we just turn to the internet. There is a ton of information out there. So how do you sift the good from the bad?
As you can see this started out as a blog to record my journey of dating progress. I wanted to get my ex back so bad. Now it’s been 2 years and I have a life filled with adventure and beautiful women. But I am getting ahead of myself.
Why do you want to get your ex back?
Like many men in our society you have a common illness. It’s called one-itis or oneitis. You think that your ex girlfriend is the one. She’s different. She’s not like other girls. There is no girl who is as good as her. You probably feel like you can never get a girl like her again. There are definitely products out there, such as Magic of Making Up, designed to get your ex back and help you through this trying time.
It’s important to realize that there are millions of quality girls out there. Amazing beautiful girls that will change your life. I have met thousands of girls since I first wanted to get my ex back. I thought she was my only hope. It’s ok to feel that way. Do you feel like she’s “the one?” The best you can do? That is a struggle that you have to work through.
How to get your ex girlfriend back – Phase 1
The first step is to realize that you changed for the worse. Over the course of your relationship the balance of power shifted out of your grip and into her hands. When she realized that you needed her more than she needed you, she walked out the door. You turned NEEDY.
There is nothing less attractive than a needy man.
You need to re-center yourself. The first step in this process is to step away from the situation. Take some time away from her and assess what it is you really want from life. A little distance will allow you to gain some perspective. It might suck or hurt, but in order to get a lot of time with her you need to spend some time away from her.
What NOT to do
Do not do anything you have seen in a romantic comedy. Do not inundate her with messages of any king – text messages, emails, facebook wall posts, flowers, phone calls, etc. If there is a spark of love left in her, this is like pouring gallons of water on it. It is needy and it is exactly what is wrong with American film.
Do not stand outside her house holding a boombox over your head. Do not call her friends for advice. Do not “accidentally” run into her. Do not take a date to her restaraunt or try to make her jealous.
How to become attractive again
If you want to get your ex girlfriend back, don’t spend all day sitting in your apartment thinking “how do I get my ex back?” You need to get out into the world.
The easiest solution is to start dating other women immediately. If you sleep with a few women, it will reset your mental state. Right now you are only comparing her to nothing. You need to actually compare her to other women. I have slept with women smarter, kinder, more beautiful and funnier than my oneitis. So believe me, I know this is possible.
Once you reset your confidence and can act normal around your ex, you can re-approach her. She will smell other women on you and become jealous.
The REAL Solution
You should really change your path and start studying the craft of the pickup artist. If you decide to change and grow as a man, you will be able to date 1000s of women. You will realize what you are actually attracted to and what kind of women you really deserve. You can have a life of adventure, mayhem and mystery.
I have been traveling the world meeting insane women for two years and I have no desire to go back to my ex. She was ok for the old me. But the new me is in LOVE with LIFE. I realize what I can have and what i deserve.
I recommend you peruse a few of my random adventures on here to see exactly what is possible in life.
UPDATE: It’s OK to get back with your Ex Girlfriend or Ex Boyfriend
When I first wrote this article I was really pushing people to go out and have the adventures that my life is filled with. But since then I have discovered that there is finally one company that actually puts out a solid product on how to get your ex back. Whether you are a man or a woman I can solidly say that I endorse The Magic of Making Up.
A friend of mine actually followed this guide and got back together with his ex girlfriend and how they are really happy. So it’s good to know that there actually is a good system out there than can help you get your ex back.
This is one of the most powerful articles I have read in a long time. Not only have you said what should be done to eliminate any kind of harassment, but you also give hope of a new life without the ex.
I enjoyed your way to communicate. Great job!