So recently I was out with a bunch of coaches from different companies and I had a little incident. I invited one guy to join me and the other dudes and he showed up with two of his trainees. Now I understand how it can feed your to constantly roll with your acolytes, but we had a table for 4 and he shoved in 2 extra guys that no one invited or knew to expect.
So I am jammed in the corner and two guys are talking over top of me. I ask this dude who I have known for years to switch seats with me. He immediately goes all alpha on me and is like why don’t you want to listen to our conversation? I was really surprised. I invited a dude to join me and some of my friends and suddenly the fact that I wanna spend time with them becomes a deal.
I am like dude just move your monkeys and switch seats with me. THEN he wants to fight me over calling his acolytes monkeys. I hate when people are looking for an excuse to show how alpha they are. When I was really young I learned a great lesson from the Karate Kid cartoon. Don’t fight someone unless you are sure you can win and if you know you can win a fight, why do you need to? To prove it to the other person?
I am a very good fighter and I train at a very tough gym in London all the time. I have no desire to get into it with anyone. I just find it so boring. So when someone tries to escalate on me, it just slides off like water.
Eventually he shut up and let me switch seats so I could talk to my friend. The message of this post is that you shouldn’t be obsessed with showing everyone how alpha you are. Being the guy who is always looking to prove himself just makes you look weak. Great warriors never need to prove it. Being a strong man is about being unaffected by the stresses of life, not trying to dominate the men around you. All my friend did is convince me that I don’t want to be around him very often anymore.
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