So I was talking to Switch last night about coming out to my parents. I came out to my father shortly after my original LoveSystems bootcamp. He sees all my credit card statements as they go to my house in America. We had an hours long conversation about the path of my life and how I wanted to change it. It was really cool and we got on the same page. The next time my parents were in London, they took Soul out to dinner. That’s really how my friendship with him began. My dad wanted to meet the other guys I knew as well, but there was only time for one. And Soul is an amazingly genuine guy. I talked to my father more about the brotherhood and it was really good. I talked him through the seduction model I was using at the time and he really liked it. I told me mom that Jeremy was like Hitch, but as he was going on about his other endeavors, she thought I was joking.
Recently, a tragedy inspired Soul to come out to his parents. I thought about some of the things he was saying and I decide to tell my mom too. I didn’t want her to find out that I had some secret life if something should happen to me. She doesn’t deserve that. Since I am really into building my game around honesty, I decided to start at home. It took me hours to clarify and explain everything to my father and about 4 minutes to explain to my mom.
She was like so you help weird guys be more normal? And you are a lot like Hitch? I told her that I also help guys with the sexual parts. She was like ok I don’t need to know more about that. It sounds like you help people. That’s really nice. I always knew you were a nice boy, the other day your sister….. And that was it. It helps now to explain why I’m flying to LA next week and my dad my visit me at the SuperConference anyways.
The point here is that if you explain something from a positive position it can be alright. Then you don’t have a secret to hide behind. I bring girls on as many bootcamps as I can and most of the girls in my life know what I do. I am not ashamed and I think it’s a powerful place to be. I don’t recommend opening a girl with this information, but there is no reason to hide it once you’ve made the love to her.
I know some people think that this community is all about secrecy and sure some parts are meant to stay that way. But really I think it’s better to not hide from your family. Secrets have power. Destroying that secret allows you to take back that power. I really recomend it.
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