I have gotten a ton of positive feedback from my previous post about photos, so here is part 2.

You have one or several hot girls ready and willing to take a picture with you.  Now you need to learn how to avoid looking like a dick.
Let’s be honest – most guys end up looking like dicks in club photos.  But before I start hating on poses, I want to talk about the concept of archetypes.  Just like there are personalities or looks, there are poses.  We know what a rocker dude or a punk looks like.  But also we can look at a photo and decide what relationship the two people in the photo have – are they brother and sister, lovers, is he an orbiter…etc.

The Hero Pose

I want to start with one of the most alpha picture archetypes.  Have you ever seen this movie or this awesome poster?  It expresses a few things.  The man is super alpha and the woman is super dependent on him.  Look how much lower she is.  When a woman’s head is at the level of your cock or below, well, the picture really speaks for itself.  This picture is actually a parody of a classic archetype.

Most people don’t know this, but it’s a parody of a picture of Conan.  If you are under 25 maybe you don’t know what I’m talking about.  But before the movies with Arnie, there was Conan the Barbarian – the comic book.  The guy who did the covers for those comics was so famous that he he his own damn museum now.  I saw a tv show about it.  It’s where I learned that he was the first person to paint this pose.

Here the woman’s head only comes up to his knee.  So this guy looks about 5 times tougher.  The good thing about reading my posts is that you learn about more than just game.  This is one of the posters that the dude in Unbreakable would have KILLED to have in his shop.  So we can see how a single photo can express dominance.

But this lesson is actually about head height.  The lower a woman’s head is in proportion to the man, the more dominant he appears in these pictures.  The original Conan seems way more dominant than  Ash does in his poster.  Also please note how the women pose their hips.  Hips is EVERYTHING – but we’ll dig more into that later.

The Love Pose

Now a lot of guys go for the WRONG pose in the club.  Or in general.  They go for a boyfriend/girlfriend pose.  Do not use a picture as a chance to look needy.  You don’t want to take pictures to post on facebook to prove to your grandmother that you have a girlfriend and you aren’t gay.  You will subcommunicate the wrong information when you do a love pose with a non-girlfriend.

Now look at the shape their heads are making.  Can you see the heart?  That’s right.  They are forming a heart with their faces – what you guys can’t see it?  Goddamn.  It’s really hard to help dumbasses but ok I’ll go the fucking extra mile here.

Look at it NOW!

If you can’t see the heart now, well, you’re fucking dead to me.  But seriously I want you to think about it.  What’s wrong with this picture.  Look how close their faces are but there is ZERO sexual tension.  It doesn’t look like they are about to kiss does it.  I mean obviously this is a posed photo, but that’s why it’s useful to study.  This photo was put together by a professional photographer and 2 professional models to send the message -”These Two Are In Love.”  And as you can see photos of love are NOT photos of sexuality.

Ok let me break it down. She is touching him and the way he’s holding her hand is either defensive or emotional.  What we want to see is his arm on her chest.  It’s way more dominant and guess what?  Dominance = Sexuality for men.  The real problem is the heart they are making with their faces.  His mouth and chin are as far away from her as possible.  The way their foreheads are touching.

Well, if you have ever studied jujitsu, they are locking together in a fighting stance.  If he goes in for the kiss, she can just keep moving her forehead.  It’s a pivot she can use to keep him away.  In this photo he has handed her ALL of his power.

In my last post I talked about telling a girl to stare into your eyes for a photo and pretend you are standing on the Eiffel Tower.  I realize now that a shitload of young pickup artists might start posting shitty photos like this one.  We don’t want to be emasculated, do we???

Now look at this next photo -

The Cute Couple

This guy is another pussy.  He is giving her more than she is giving him.  He is leaning on her shoulder and she is pulling away a little.  Now to be fair she might be doing this so that his photo can be in the picture….

How many of you think his arms are around her?  All of you right?  That’s because we have another standard photo archetype here.  The relationship.  The cute couple.  This is totally fine if you are taking a picture for Modern Virgin magazine and talking about how you bought promise rings and are keeping the Prom Promise but you’re gonna get married when you both turn 18.  Am I being to subtle here?

The main lesson to learn form this photo is that you have to control your energy.  He is giving her more than he’s getting.  His whole body is aimed at her and her body is aimed AWAY from him.  Now if she turned her head and kissed his cheek or at least faced him, the energy could equalize.  But this is the kinda pose you see ravers taking at 4 am with their girlfriends.  I know this because it used to be me.  Again the key word is GIRLFRIEND.

He can afford to take this picture with her because it’s his girlfriend, but if it’s a girl her met that night.  This pose will plant the wrong seed in her mind.  She will think he wants to be her boyfriend.  And we don’t want to send that message on the first night.

The Sexy Couple

The last photo was actually titled “cute couple” and this one is called “two lovers.”  This is an amazing pose and this artist is so talented that I am actually a little aroused just looking at it.  You know why this picture is so amazing.  First, her head is FINALLY lower than his.  I bet you guys didn’t notice, but in the last set of photos the girls were all equal head height with the men.  Awesome, they have an equal partnership.   And their pictures look like shit.

THIS is a fucking couple.  Look how much sexual energy there is.  His arms are around her in a protective pose.  But the reason this one is amazing is the way she is touching him back.  That’s right she is returning the kino.  Or reverse-kino.  Depends what term you use.  To be fair I say reverse-kino a lot.  I’m hoping that I made the term up as kind of a joke but who knows.

Also her hips are a little tilted toward him.  At least that’s the impression the photo gives us.  Her head is tilted TOWARD him and not toward the camera.  That’s sexy.  They aren’t posing for the camera.  This is a photo of them LIVING.  If you can get a girl into this pose you are a fucking god.  Girls won’t ever let me take this photo because by the time we are in this pose she totally knows that I will use the pic in one of these educational blog posts.  HAaha.  Acutally I would have used all pictures of me but fucking iphoto broke again.  I swear that program pisses me off.

The Aphex Twin

People who know me eventually ask about the face I make when I’m posing with girls.  I always base my photos on my man, Aphex Twin.  If you don’t know who he is, well then you’re life is empty.  His techno videos from the 90s were so fucked up.  He has one where he’s in a limo with two girls.  And then his head is on one girls body and then the other and shit.  It’s fucking awesome.

Anyways, now you fuckers know.  This is the face I always make.

Now i don’t always deliver it perfectly.  But this picture he looks like he’s on the line between sinister and evil. Put a girl on each arm and you’re like wtf does that guy know that I don’t.  He looks like he’s got some creepy secret.  AHahah.  So that’s the pose I try to stick to.  I ALWAYS do it in pics with 2 girls.  If it’s me and one girl I might do something else.  So now you know a little about me.

The Douche

This is the picture that I’m really worried about guys.  I have a BAD feeling that a SHITLOAD of pickup guys take this photo and then throw it on their facebook and call it social proof.  I’m just writing more and more to delay posting the picture right now.  Because it breaks my fucking heart.

Please try to ignore how chub that girl on the right is.  I had to google to find pics because iphoto is being a bitch today.  It’s pretending it can’t see my library.  I have so many photos that it takes like 24 hours to rebuild the library every time it does this shit.  So I’m not doing it tonight.

I want you to focus on the guy.  Try to ignore his bad fashion, lame beard and how sweaty he is.  The important thing is that it looks like a picture of 4 girls that this guy shoved his way into.  The girls all have arms around each other and it looks like his arms are behind his back.  I could talk about how wrong this dude is for hours.  (and if it turns out he’s on this forum sorry dude!  I found the picture randomly on google!!!)

Let’s focus on how this happens to young acolytes.  Your are working a 4set and they are like take our picture.  Your buddy offers to take the picture.  You don’t want to overstep your bounds so you just stand to the side of them.  I know you guys feel me on this one.  If his buddy had simply said, girls put him in the middle.  They would have obeyed.  (remember women obey photographers, we all do).

This is another form of ESCALATION ANXIETY – I don’t wanna blow the chance of a photo by going for the middle.  Well now you know that no pic is better than this one.  I mean next time it could be you i’m talking about on here.

The Still Kind of a Douche Pose

This guy is at least in the middle.  But you can tell these girls are taking pictures of themselves, not with the dude.  See how he’s leaning into one girl and pulling the other girl into him.  At least the birthday girl is having fun.  But again we have here a really obvious pickup guy photo.  This guy ain’t fucking either of this girls.  Not tonight.  Not ever.

Please study this photo for a minute and think to yourself, what’s missing.  Do you have it yet?  Neither of the girls are touching him.  The girl on the left is subconsciously pulling her right arm away from him and is actually blocking her body with her left arm.  Her body language is keeping him at a distance.  Her body is saying I will take a pic with this dude but I won’t kino him.  The girl on the right is using her drink to send the same message “Can’t kino now, hands full.”

I am actually pretty sure this guy is a pua based on the body language.  He is doing better than the last guy.  But there is still longer to go.

Let’s Review

There are three main elements in a photo.

1.  Head height

2. Energy Direction

3. Kino

4. Angle of the hips

The Pickup Guru

I was googling the word threesome to find some decent pictures of a guy and two girls for you and this fucking dude popped up.  I don’t know who he is but I saw this and thought pickup instructor.  I know I’m one too.  But hey, being able to self critique is really important.

You know what’s wrong with this photo?  This guy is TRYING to look like a badass.  Holy shit I do that all the time.  Not the time, not the time, let’s just focus on the lesson.  But seriously I bet I have a ton of pictures where I look like this guy.  He’s like a high-level douche.  This photo is posed.  So let’s talk about how it’s an INTENTIONAL message.

Most beginners will be impressed by this photo, but I need to teach you.  Sorry to break the illusion.  First of all, the girls are not that cute.  Their body language and looks scream friends.  Not lovers.  The girls are aiming inwards, but again neither girl is touching him.  They are all focused on the camera.  This photo is about the camera, but not about THEM.

Their is no sexual tension in this photo.  He isn’t leaking energy.  He isn’t facing them, but they aren’t facing him either.  The girls are pointing their breasts at teach other, not him.  If their hips were more targeted towards him, then it would be a much better photo.

The Upper Intermediate

I am really proud of this little dude.  I mean the girls are only so-so, but he is doing a LOT of shit right.  Number one is his left arm.  Do you see how it’s around the middle of that girl in the grey?  He’s pulling her in towards him.  Pulling a girl in between her ribs and ass is perfect.  It’s not sexual for him, but it redirects her hips towards him.  This creates a POWERFUL sexual energy.  His right arm is around the little girl in front.  Honestly guys, this is a REALLY great photo to memorize.  So if you only learn one thing, just try to copy this guy.  He’s not using his hands to sneak some ass or boob off either girl.  He’s controlling both of them and bringing them close to his body in different ways.

Now look how the little girl is holding on to him. That shows that he’s alpha to her.  We want to see girls touch back.  The girl on the right is touching him with her breasts.  She is holding her arms back so they don’t block the shot.  She wants the camera to see her boobs touching him.  This is really solid.

He is facing the camera and controlling them.  This is really good.  The girls are leaning against him or aiming their hips against his.  And their heads are lower than his in this photo.  All of this is money.

Again, please focus on the body language and the angles, not on how attracted you are to these girls.  (or to him).

The advanced

I almost don’t want to make any comments on this photo.  Everything is perfect.  All energy is directed toward him.  She is kissing him, her breasts are touching him and her hips are aimed at him.  She is clutching his arm.  Yet he is facing the camera.  This guy is money in the bank.  I just saw this picture and wanted to post it.  This is a girl who is VERY attracted to a man.

The I Don’t Give a Fuck

This is a good photo of a power couple. They are saying.  Go ahead and take our picture, but fuck you.  This is another way you can go if you want.

This photo is good because they have matching expressions.  And you can see a lot of boob.  I guess these two people are famous, but the point is how they have parity.  It’s a powerful photo.

The Best Photo Of ALL Time

This photo is really complicated.  Let me try to break it down.  Let’s start with the fact that he fucking looks like me in 5 years and she is smoking hot.  This immediately makes me think, this guy is either French or rich.  What I love is that he is ignoring the camera.  She is totally vamping for it, but it looks like he doesn’t know it’s there.  Or he just doesn’t care.

She is trying really hard (successfully) to be really sexy.  But notice how her sexiness is in reference to him.  She has her arms around him in a way that says don’t touch my man.  She is marking her territory. She is touching him with both hands.  He is only touching her with one.  On the ass.  Underwater.  This guy is my fucking hero.

If you guys have questions about this photo or any of the other ones, please ask.  Asking a question doesn’t mean you’re dumb, it means my explanation wasn’t clear enough.  And I really do want people to learn from these.  I mean I have been working on this one for over an hour now.

Good Kiss Bad Kiss

Can you tell which one is which.  Hitch got a lotta shit wrong in his movie but the idea that a kiss is 90/10 is really strong.  Which picture is sexier?  The guy on the left is taking 110.  The girl is fully on the defensive.  And because of that the photo is ruined with her fat hands.  The one on the right is a classic picture that makes every girl wet.  It’s fucking Gone with the Wind you assholes.

But for real, he is towering over her.  Her hands are on his chest.  But he’s letting her have that final 10%.  Sexuality isn’t about total control of a woman.  It’s about leaving her some room to be sensual.

Conclusion

I hope you guys were able to learn something from these photos.  I tried to cover the spectrum from terrible to powerful and explain the mindset I go through when I’m taking a picture.  If you look at the pic of me I posted in part ONE where two girls are licking me, you’ll notice the Aphex Twin face.  And that pic is 2 years old.  I just love getting away with shit.

So with pictures just have an idea of the final product.  And work towards it.  I don’t want you to overthink your photos, just have a plan for how to make them better and better.  Remember, pull her HIPS towards you.  It will actually alter her whole body language.

I love you fuckers.

Now I didn't originate the idea of a photo routine, but there are parts of this that I though of myself.  I probably didn't do anything other than re-invent the wheel, but I thought I would share this anyway.  I learned about photo routines from my first coach Stickler back in Guildford, so I wanna be sure to give him love.

The Purpose -

Whenever you are taking a photo with a girl, as with any "routine," pattern, piece of conversation, escalation or whatever you want to call it, you need to know WHY you are doing it.  The WHY will determine the effectiveness of the operation.  If you just take pictures to take pictures, well you won't accomplish anything. 

1.  To have a ton of pictures with hot girls – Let's not lie to each other.  This is the main reason we take pictures with girls.  We wanna throw them on our facebook page so that we can tell our friends we have social proof.  We want to attach them to field reports so that guys from the internet will respect us. 

Guess what?  That's a 100% legitimate reason to take a picture with a girl.  Building up your facebook page will slowly build up your social status, but the main thing that having a ton of hot girls on your facebook page does is make you feel good about yourself.  It builds up your confidence and this is a KEY element of all the dating systems I have ever encountered. 

A lot of guys will take a shitload of pictures when they are first learning game.  This will last for about 6 months.  I am not sure why, but it is usually about this long.  I went from pictures of every set to pictures here and there, to once a month or at a big party.

2.  To build attraction – You can spike attraction early in a set by taking a bunch of photos with a girl.  It's fun and girls love to by photographed when they are out.  Just because it only took you 15 minutes to get dressed, doesn't mean she spent less than an hour.  Girls only go out if they look amazing, so they are photo-ready.

With this goal in mind, you take the photos fast and early, but you don't push for the kiss.  This is more about having a ton of fun.  Think of all those Japanese girls that love puricura.  (the photobooth shit)

3.  To build rapport - It's later in the set and you are struggling to get past attraction.  You only have a tenuous connection with the girl.  You can tell she likes you but you want to tie her to that second date.

In this case you will focus on taking rapport building pictures.  Instead of you/her pictures you want US pictures.  Girls like taking romantic or fun photos and this is an easy way to get that facebook close.  She will want to be tagged in photos where she looks cute.  It makes you real.

4.  To escalate -  Let's not fuck around.  This is the main reason I rock the photo routine.  It doesn't matter where you are in set if you get this right, so I am really going to focus on this part.  I only break out the camera to get some pictures of a tongue war.  And the example photos below are of this version of the routine.

The preparation

You need to plan this in advance.  The first thing you need to do is get the right camera.  I know it seems obvious, but cell phone pics still look like shit when compared to digital camera pics.  I have been rocking the same camera for 5 years now and it's still taking way better photos than my new badass blackberry. 

Equipment

I use a Casio Exilim.  I bought the bitch in Japan in 2005.  That's right.  I'm that old.  And this camera is my fucking soulmate.  I took like 5k pictures of my oneitis with it.  I took pictures in Thailand, South Korea, Cambodia, Japan, Sweden, Austria, and England with it.  It has been there for my whole journey.  It broke once.  Like the zoom motor broke.  I took it to an electronics shop in Japan and they fixed it for like 80 bucks. It's been perfect ever since.

I bought this camera for 2 very important reasons.  Everyone I knew who had been in Japan for more than a year had the same camera.  In a country where electronics kick ass, to see 10 people saying the same camera is awesome is a BIG sign.  The other reason is more important.  It's the exact width of my fingers.  Most fuckers don't think of this shit.  But I get drunk…A LOT.  So some of the newer version of this camera are a little difficult for me to hold.  Translation – I will drop them.  I mean I am pretty sure that in 5 years I have dropped this camera 3-4 times.  But it's endured.  Also if a camera is too thick, you will hold it different each time.  That's no good.  So get one that fits your hand.

The case for your camera is also something to consider.  If you got keys or your phone in the same pocket the thing is gonna get knocked around.  I have a case that my camera slips into.  It basically adds like 2mm on 5 of the 6 sides of the camera.  It's not a big stupid camera case with room for film or whatever.  I love it and it's SMALL.  Remember you don't wanna wear like a fishing vest filled with your "pickup gear."

The 2 Ps – Plan and Partner

This is like the most important part of the photo routine.  You gotta let your wing in on it.  You need to have a 5 minute discussion with him about what to do.  2 years ago I almost punched Keychain in the face for fucking up my photo routine.  You wanna make sure that your wing remembers that he is your friend and doesn't start doing that old school lame ass "alpha" shit like start taking pictures of himself and then hand the camera back. 

Instead let him know that HE is crucial.  When he has the camera girls RESPECT him.  Think about how we treat photographers our whole lives.  Our brains are programmed to obey them.  And if a girl is a model, well then she really can't resist the commands of a camera man.

Your wing is important for 2 reasons – he can escalate on your behalf AND he is a buffer.  If I can get a girl to kiss me on the cheek, then my wing can convince her to lick my cheek.  This is a picture that Stickler took where he told 2 girls to lick the side of my face.  He took like 3 pix but this is the best one.  And BOTH of these girls had boyfriends like 5 feet away.

He is a great buffer because if the girl rejects his escalation, it doesn't affect you.  You can just burn him.  If your buddy is like "make out!" and she freaks out.  Just be like ignore him, he's always making trouble.  And BOOM. You protected her.  So you can still get points.

Strike Time

Now you do NOT need a reason to take a photo with a girl.  Just in the middle of chatting say "Let's take a photo."  It's that simple.  Don't make it a big deal.  If you are opening with a photo routine then you might need something else. 

Goal 1 - If your goal is a ton of pics with hot girls then just do a speed version of this routine.  Walk up to girls and say you are on vacation and you want pics of all the cool people from there.  Just be high energy.  Or have your wing say it's your birthday and you need pics because you are going to blackout.  This both work.  Just remember.  HIGH ENERGY.

Goal 2 - About 5 minutes into the set either brake out the camera or have your wing do it.  "You know what?  You're pretty cool.  Let's take a picture so we can treasure this moment forever."  Say something fun or cheesy like that.  Then take silly fun photos and only ratchet up for the romance at the end of the routine.  Take a normal pic.  Then underwater with cheeks puffed.  Then scared like the boulder from Temple of Doom is rolling behind you.  (Most girls I go for are too young for this movie so I just say being chased by the Abominable Snowman).  The idea here is to have fun.  You can make the final picture – Stare into each other's eyes like you are on top of the Eiffel Tower.  This is money!  Flips her romance switch.  (If you are going for a bf situation)  You gotta calibrate to what you want.  But this is an easy way to transition to comfort.

Goal 3 -  Take the pictures when you are getting to know each other.  Make it more of a travel vacation theme.  In front of the pyramids.  In a space ship.  In the future when you both have robot eyes.  Shit like this.  It's about future projecting and locational rapport.  (To show you that I DO know some fancy ass pua terms.)

You want her to imagine you in her life in the future.  And you want her to imagine you in different backgrounds.  Both of this things make her feel like she has known you longer.  She will feel more emotionally closer to you.  This is comfort/rapport/connection or whatever pickup term YOU like to use for it.

NOW THE GOOD SHIT

Goal 4 – Escalate.  If you read goals 1-3 and said fuck that noise.  Then I totally hear you.  Basically as you advance through game you will move this routine later and later in your set.  Until you get tight and then just use it whenever you want.

First the DEMO!.  These pics were taken by Tov last Friday after I taught him the basics of the routine.

I met this girl about 3 minutes before this photo was taken.  I was outside smoking and I just had a feeling.  I gave Tov the signal and he was like lemme take a photo. 

Now a beginner might look at this photo alone and thing "shit how does he do that"  but I am gonna let you guys behind the curtain.  It's all perception.  If a girl feels a little bit comfortable with you, she will fall into her normal "I'm with a guy" pose.  That's what is happening here.  YES she is attracted to me, but just a little bit.  This is her being normal for her.

This photo is about 90% good winging by Tov.  He says to her.  What the fuck are you doing?  Take a REAL photo.  He's escalating her for me.  So she leans in more.  When I am winging I will shout things like "Show me the sexy!"  But just see what girls respond to when you are the photog.  Just think paparazzi.  You can shout shit like "come on this shit is gonna be on TMZ, sex it up a little"  Any shit like that.

So now she is leaned in close.  Of course I think this pic sucks with here eyes blacked out.  It isn't as good looking as the first one.  Even though from a technical standpoint it's got a TON more kino and compliance from her.  See how my body is pointed towards the camera but her's is pointed towards me?  That's right.  Her vagina is aimed at my cock.

This picture is epic because a TON of things are happening right here.  All within about 2 seconds.  So I am gonna bring you through on slo-mo. 

Tov starts by "fucking up" my routine.  He over escalates.  He says "now kiss."  No lead in or anything.  And I start to burn him, BUT she immediately kisses me.  The student becomes the master.  It turns out that I underestimated the situation.  Or how slutty this girl is, but either way.  She complied with the full push.

So I hesitated, but the force of his will was enough to get me the makeout.  This led to about a 20 minute dirty makeout session.  The idea here is to have a good flow.

We went pictures -> sexy picture -> makeout.

The Standard Version

Now you should always be willing to vary what you do and experiment with new shit.  But this is the basic Paladin Escalation Photo Routine. (PEPR – pronounced pepper)  HAHA..  I just thought of that wicked name for this.  You can be like hey wing "Got any Paper?" and he can be like no, but I've got a fucking camera.

Ok so the photos have 3 phases.  And I usually only take 3 photos.

1.  Take a normal picture.  Anything can work here.  Just bring her in really tight.  If she gives you 6 take 7.  On the scale of like sexy photoness.  So if she snuggles a little, just push for a little more. 

2.  This is the escalation photo.  It's like preparing her for photo 3.  Depending on vibe you want to go for the Under the Ocean pic or you can push for the Can't you be Sexy pic?  Either way you are moving attraction and kino forward.

3.  The close.  Here I usually say now stare into my eyes.  Depending on vibe, you can say something like just like in Lady and the Tramp.  Or you can say somewhere romantic. 

Again if your partner knows the pattern, all you have to do is let him direct.  If you are obeying him, she will feel that and feel even more inclined to obey.

 Final Thoughts

You and your wings should just have 1 camera for the night.  I used to be the camera guy, but now I just give my camera to someone I trust.  Now some guys will take the camera and then hand it back to you at the end of the nigh without having taken a picture.  So never give that dude the camera again.  It's a waste.  For now Tov is my new camera dude because he's a maniac with it.  I just opened iphoto to get those 3 demo photos and there are like 30 pics of that fucker with different girls.  I mean really I want him taking pictures of me, but hey.  Either way it's happening.

The other thing is that if you take a club photo with a girl you probably won't fuck her.  This is pretty much why I stopped taking photos.  Whenever I think a set is really good to go, I don't take a photo.  Like these pics are from Friday.  This girl wasn't special so whatever.  But Saturday night I met a girl that was smoking hot and super cool.  I only ran 1 set all night and so I didn't break out the camera.  This might just be my personality.  So you can experiment for yourself, but keep this in mind.  Once a girl takes a pic with you a one night stand HAS to count.  Because there is proof. 

Don't take pictures to fuck with a girl.  Don't post pictures to harm her or fuck with her reputation on facebook or some shit.  For real.  I have 3 sisters and 2 nieces and I fucking love women.  So just don't use my shit for evil.

I have just finished my MA dissertation.   It is at the printers right now and I will be picking it up Tuesday morning and handing it in.  The I am 100% done with that forever!!!  I get my grades and degree in November.  I am really excited to be finished but now it’s time to look at the next phase of my life.

I have a few challenges that I am grinding through this month.  I am back on my diet/training regime.  This includes no soda, no bread, no fast food of any kind etc for 3 months.  It also includes no drinking for the next 3 months.  That one I’m really struggling with.  I am certainly drinking WAY less after my last period of no drinking.  I really wanna tighten up my fitness kick so I am gonna try to grind.

I am also going to try to not masturbate for a whole month.  I just deleted all the porn off of my computer.  Holy crap I had 65gigs.  Man that is a ton.  I hate to watch the same video more than once…  Anyways I actually deleted it all as a challenge.  I really wanna tighten up my game this month and I think this will help a ton.  It also leads me to my next challenge.

I am going to study a new guru for a month, every month for the next season.  I haven’t set an end limit on this challenge.  I DO know that I am going to start by studying Mehow this month.  I know a lot of people don’t rate him, but October does.  And for me that is more than good enough.  I just wanna get deep into my game and go more technical again.  I am good but I want to get amazing.

I can only focus on 3 challenges at a time in my mind.  So these are my current ones.

So there appears to be a rumor going around about me that I do natural game now instead of routine-based game. This is half-correct. I am currently developing my own pickup system with Sasha called Organic Game. You will be hearing a lot more about this in the future as we start to release podcasts on the subject. Project Rockstar has taken over that project for the time being. So allow me to explain myself.

Organic Seduction is the Jeet Kun Do (JKD) of the venusian arts. JKD was developed by Bruce Lee to be the ultimate martial art. It is the only custom martial art in the world. The idea is very simple. People with different bodies should fight in a different way. I have studied 7 martial arts on 3 continents for almost 15 years now. Many people would expect me to use hundreds of martial arts moves in my fights and competitions. But actually I use less than 30 techniques. I have paired down the moves to those that work best for me. For my body type and strengths. Pickup should work the same way. I am naturally very funny, so I use laughter to flip attraction switches. My good friend Soul is very sexual and he exudes that during pickup. We both get results is one of us wrong and the other right? Certainly not.

I use a mix of tools from dozens of sources now. I don’t care what name a technique or routine has if it can work for my body. I have written several openers and routines for myself that work for many other people and will be included in the new Routines Manual from LoveSystems. I also use a lot of inner game techniques from Hypnotica and Skeletor. I think each person should find what works for them individually to maximise their success. I don’t really care what people on forums think of me. I only care about my relationships with my friends and the women in my life. You should be the same way. Don’t stop using a technique just because it’s no longer trendy. That’s just silly. In London there is a big anti-routine movement right now.

This movement has nothing to do with me. I don’t care what routines anyone uses. Or meta-routines. Or non-routines. After Skeletor’s amazing talk on Sunday I have a newfound respect for his form of Natural Game and I can’t wait to mix it into my current style. I would say that I am in favor of both Natural systems and Routine systems. At the end of they day, it’s all about results. I have worked with a lot of great guys in pickup and I think that every system has it’s strengths and flaws.

In martial arts combat is about outer and inner game. It is about confidence in yourself as well as technique. Let’s all take a lesson from the martial arts and realize that rather than arguing which style is better. Solve it in the only way any matter can be solved. The Octagon.

So some of the guys around me are starting to use openers that I wrote or thought of. Last night Sasha was running around using a shocking chloroform one that I told him last week. Now everybody thinks it’s his, even though if they ask he will totally say I wrote it. It’s flattering that my material is getting out there, but I would like if my name goes out there with it. I think a couple of my routines are going to be in the Routines Manual II, which is pretty cool. I know I have 1 opener in there and hopefully 1 attraction routine. It will just be cool to spread my name a little more and to get more people reading this blog. Cheers!!

As you know I lived in Japan for two years and it has massively affected my gaming style and fashion. Today I want to talk to you about one of the most powerful words I learned during my time in Japan. Skinship: Human to human touch. In Japan there is a great deal of emphasis placed on this. And it is sorely lacking in most western cultures….

My first day in Japan I saw teenage boys lying across each other, massaging each other, and hugging each other. My first thought was that all of Japan is gay. In fact, it’s nearly the opposite. The standard assumption is that men are not gay, therefore they can really express themselves with non-sexual touch. The Japanese have realized that as humans we crave skin on skin contact. There is far more physical openness as all Japanese go to onsen, or public bathhouses, and bathe in public in the nude.

Im the western world there has been a steady decline in human to human contact for centuries. First men stopped touching women as form of sexual repression. Then men stopped touching men as a way of suppressing their homosexuality, even when they were straight. If you notice, often when girls see each other they run up and hug. If two men did the same thing, we would immediately think they are gay. Only recently did I start to question the logic in this. I knew two naturals, who hugged each other every time they saw each other and said something emotional and kind. It’s really powerful. I started to emulate them as I wanted to improve my game. Just last night, a guy I’m friends with was over with my house mate. I walked in on them chilling in my house mates room at about 1am, super drunk. My friend tried to shake my hand and I said I don’t think so and hugged him. He was hesitant for a second, but then he almost broke my back with a long strong hug. As soon as I made it ok for him to express skinship, he expressed a lot more than me.

In Japanese culture there is a great deal of emphasis placed on the greater good, which I will explore in another article. People express skinship in their relationships as a way of being there for each other. It’s a way of giving value. This is something very valuable, that I think we would do well to bring into our society. I often quote the powerful line from Tommy Boy “Brothers don’t shake hands, brothers hug!”

When I first started this whole thing, I really freaked out about kino, like everybody else. But not-kinoing is more unnatural. There are a million non-sexual ways to give people physical affirmation. I decided that I wanted to be a guy who has a lot of touch in his life, so that kino will just be congruent. So I touch men and women. I hug girls in set constantly, and not just my target. The new centerpiece of my theory is that of giving out as much value as possible. I want everyone to feel better after they meet me, and for some deep reason, hugs make us feel better.

There are hundreds of articles on how important touch is for babies. Babies that don’t get a ton of touch from their mothers right from birth often have massive psychological issues. There are a ton of studies you can read on google scholar about effect of gentle human touch (GHT) on infants. As we grow our needs do not change. I try to hug all of my friends and I am trying to increase the amount in my life. Often we can go through an entire day without actually touching another person, this is so common in big cities and a massive part of why people can feel lonely surrounded by other people.

Japanese people have higher levels of skinship because people just aren’t as worried about seeming gay. We could learn a lot from this. I am sure I’m not gay, so I should be able to have tons of non-sexual touch with my friends. I will close by relating one final story. One of my favorite students at a school where I struggled most days was a sweet 14 year old girl. One day she saw me during lunch time and ran at me to hug me. I pulled back, because in America it’s really inappropriate for a male teacher to hug a female student. Her feelings were really hurt. My refusing to touch her in a way acceptable in her society really hurt her feelings. I denied her skinship and it changed our relationship drastically in class from that point on.

So in conclusion, our mindset shouldn’t be to only touch people for the purpose of sexual escalation. Touch should just be part of our lives, how we give affirmation. Touch is a massive part of how we communicate. Then it will naturally flow that when you are communicating sexually, your touch-based communication will go along with it naturally.

Skinship (??????) is a wasei-eigo, or a Japanese word coined using English root origins, initially to describe the closeness between a mother and her child due to the physical contact of their skin. Skinship develops through breastfeeding, co-sleeping, baby massage or simply by carrying and holding your baby.

So a big part of my lifestyle is dancing. I absolutely love it. I’m pretty advanced at liquid. I can do some basic locking as well. Last week I found out Soul is into body popping, so it Stickler. I’m pretty excited to have some guys to work with. I definitely want to add this skill to my arsenal.

This is a video with my favorite dance clip of all time. Wait til it hits the black and white section at 3:2 in. Salty. This guy is so amazing. For years I have been trying to master this shotgun move. I know it’s just a reverse of mime’s rope-pulling trick, but it’s still so advanced. I have decided I’m going to try and embed more videos and stuff in my blog to make it more fun. Anyways, I am always looking for other dancers in London to hook up with. Safe.

So I was just testing out some social circle game on a friend of my housemate and this girl was talking about a bad date and men not understanding women. I took the opportunity to talk a little about how most men don’t understand women yada yada and I talked a little bit about social dynamics. She was talking about bf stuff and how to tell if a guy would be a good one and I dropped about 10 seconds of golden mirror. She just melted. I cut it off and said that’s what I would say if I were into you. It was like playing with plutonium. I mean I dig on this girl but I could feel it affecting me too. That stuff is no joke! So take all the warnings seriously. Do not run deep comfort unless you are ready to change your life. I am still in awe of the power of deep comfort right now…my mind just wandered off.

So I had a date tonight booked with my HBHenParty from sat. I had solid text game and secured the date. But I really didn’t care one way or the other. When she called me last nite to finalize the plans I had mixed feelings. Anyways, today I tried out some different text frame to learn about calibration and which frame is the most powerful. When I sexualized the texts she withdrew and when I accused her of trying to seduce me she pulled forward. I kept trying out different things and eventually broke the line. But I realized that it’s important to learn about calibration with the ones we don’t care about. I really shouldn’t be going out of town tonight anyways for money reasons and I need to finish some coursework for college. But the lesson is very important, don’t use text game to sexualize. Save that for in-person. Since there is no kino, sexual escalation seems creepy and weird. Touch is a crucial component to sexualizing any encounter. Maintain a defensive playful funny frame on the phone. My game is so much tighter with what I’ve learned today. Keep on trucking. I will go out tonight and open a few sets just to keep alive. But I think it’s important to focus on callback humor and make anything sexual seem like an accident!

I went out with my house mate the magician and some other mates to see Derren Brown live this week. I have been a fan for ages of this guy so I was really excited to see his show. It was about 400 people, but we were 5th row. It was just the perfect distance to really see everything. It was great to see a master of the mental persuasion arts working it up there. I really learned a lot about frame control. As far as I can tell, he’s as good as it gets. And it was really great. His best technique is his memory in my opinion. We met him out back after the gig. And he just remembered every name so well. He even recognizes my house mates voice, which he heard when he read his mind. It was so cool. He makes everyone feel like his friend by just throwing his frame over everyone. Anyways, I thought he was such a nice guy I’m going to see the same show again in May with my whole family. I recommend watching some of his dvds to learn about reading people and mental mastery. Top notch and educational as well.