Greatest. Protest. Video. Ever.

So these ten chicks got together and decided to protect fake boobs. It’s from Colombia and it’s an antiplastic surgery and silicon movement. I respect anyone who’s willing to take a stand. As a guy who loves boobs in all shapes and sizes this is one protest that I can actually get behind.

The video is so hot that I can’t actually host it here. It’s to risque even for me, but I will hook you up with a killer link!

PROTEST SILICON

This video is super hot but I also do think they make a good point.  Our society is moving to a point where everyone wants to look like each other.  We are actually trying to weed out individuality.  So take some time and show some respect to boobs that God made.

Two weeks my mom was in the hospital for what we thought was a stroke.  She was really far away visiting one of my sisters, so I was feeling kinda down.  I called the two giants to come console me over a few cocktails that night.

I just kinda didn’t want to think about things.

So I drink alone for an hour or two until they get off work and they show up, but man they just wanted to talk about themselves.  The truth is I probably wouldn’t have called them at all except I just needed someone to drink with on a Monday and most people I know are trying to lead responsible lives right now.  Not that that’s my thing at all!

So we have some drinks etc and I end up back at theirs.  Both separately inform me at this point that I’m sleeping on the couch.  I’ve slept in both of their beds multiple times and I actually wasn’t really pushing to bang.  I mean I was genuinely upset.  The thing is I’m not the kind of man who sleeps on a girls couch anymore.  That guy just doesn’t exist here.

So I called a cab and I rolled out of there.  They straight up pushed against one of my boundaries and I will not have a girl in my life who thinks I’m couchworthy.  You must be joking.

Recently I had a similar issue with boundaries with someone over a work issue.  I had to be extremely firm and explain what my boundaries are and that I will not cross them or allow them to be broken, even for financial gain.

If you constantly let people move your barriers, whether they strorm through like a German blitzkrieg or instead use a battle of inches like on my Date with an Author, you will end up with exactly no territory.  People have a natural inclination to treat you like crap if you allow them to.  The moment someone stops respecting you, you have lost everything.

So start taking yourself and your boundaries seriously.  Decide what you will and will not accept in your life, at work and with your friends.  You will see major differences.

I recently read the book Sole Survivor.  It’s about the journey of a guy who became a Navy Seal and then barely survived after his entire team is killed in front of him in Afghanistan.  The book is amazing and super intense and it’s a totally true story.

Today I want to talk with you about something from the first part of the book – Navy Seal Training.  If you have ever watched Discovery Channel then you have probably seen some Navy Seals training.  I have met several Navy Seals in my life and these guys are some seriously tough bastards.  During the training there is a bell on the beach that anyone can ring to say that he’s quit.  After you ring the bell, they give you a second chance.  Only a few guys actually take that second chance and get back to doing pushups in the surf at 3am.  But NONE of those guys ever actually complete the Navy Seals training.  None of them.

You know why?  Their spirit has already broken.  Once there is a crack, it’s easy for it to break again.  Ringing that bell a second time is a hell of a lot harder than the first time.

The guys who actually pass through all the training have already decided that they will either complete the training or die trying.  They don’t have a third option.  There’s a reason these guys are on the front line.

So how does this relate to meeting women?  Well let me tell you.

I get calls and emails from guys about training all the time.  In London I taught hundreds of guys  and in that time I learned to be able to tell who would succeed and who wouldn’t.  The reason I became so good so fast is that when I read The Game I made a decision.  I would master pickup or I would die trying.  I would not give up without leaving a lot of my blood on the floor.  And if you read from my first six months in pickup there is a lot of bleeding.  I failed so much, but I never gave up.  I never considered ringing the bell.  But every single guy who does always falls short.

It was this way for all the guys I came up with and it’s that way for guys now.  My lovesystems bootcamp was so expensive for me.  I was a full time student at the time just scraping by with a tutoring gig.  It took me THREE months after my bootcamp to pay it off.  And guess what?  I fought and bled for that money.  And I worked my ass off in my bootcamp.  It was a fight or die scenario for me.

I get calls from guys who just don’t want to put in the effort.  And there’s nothing I can do.  When a guy calls me to cancel a session I know that he’s ringing the bell and it breaks my heart.  There are tons of excuses I hear.  And I’m really not trying to call anyone specific out here.  This has happened to me about 30 times in my teaching career.  The moment a guy says he can’t afford it or doesn’t have time or wants to get good enough to use his lesson with me well.  All I hear is a ringing bell.  I am insanely good at sales.   I could talk any guy into taking a lesson from me.

But if it doesn’t come from within then it won’t last.  It’s sad but it’s just the way life is.  If you want to succeed at something, remove all other options from the table.

I might sound like a dick right now, but if there’s one thing about me I practice what I preach.  I just signed a contract with a new gym today that is KILLING me.  I am flying to Hawaii in 21 days for a month.  I told the guys I want to lose 20 pounds before my flight takes off.  I will do whatever it takes.  I am retraining my heart and my body and it hurts so bad.  But I don’t have a third option.  I have zero doubt that I will be looking super sexy before I hit the island.  And guess what?  When I get back I’m doing another month before I try to move permanently.  I want it so bad I can taste it.

So if you want to get good at pickup – beg, borrow and steal to get the training you need.  And please.  Don’t even think about ringing that bell.

It's funny how we get into pickup because we want more women in our lives and as soon as that starts to happen we realize that it wasn't the problem, just a symptom.

It's like that amazing line from Brad Pitt in Fight Club.  "We're a generation of men raised by women.  I'm wondering if another women is really the answer we need."  Like all of my brothers – my fellow wings, coaches, instructors and acolytes I have discovered that I want more.  It's why my life has exploded in so many directions.

Once guys start having more girls or cuter girls or sometimes it's just ANY girls in their lives, they start to look for more projects.  The path of self-discovery seems to have no endpoint.  Soon it becomes all about inner game.  Developing an iron sense of self.  Then you want financial independence.  After that you start to seek locational independence.

I am moving on that path myself.  I have expanded my business ventures in a dozen directions in the last few months.  Like every other guy I know in pickup, internet marketing is one of those directions.  Hopefully my new project will work out and I'll be in a really good financial position within a few months. 

But this post isn't about me, it's about you.

As you move along this journey and track your progress with your blog, who you are and what you want will change.  I used to just want to get married so bad.  I thought it would solve all of my problems.  Now I see the world in a completely different way.  I keep changing careers.  I am 29 and I am still finding myself and exploring every passion.

To be honest, there is nothing I love more than teaching guys what's possible.  Pickup is just the medium for the education.  It's a means to an end. 

So start trying the things you have always wanted to do or the things you've always been afraid to do.  You might just find yourself.

So for the past month I have had a girlfriend.  I was so into her that I stopped writing posts about my dating life.  It’s weird how I can care about someone enough to respect their privacy.  When I basically live without any myself.

I have been back in my hometown for a week now.  I’m a little hesitant to say where I am, because I have some internet stalkers on a few weird forums who have been talking about my family etc.  So for now I’ll let you guys figure it out.

Anyways I think about my x like every day.  It’s really strange because technically we are broken up.  But in my heart I just miss her so bad.  Now at least I know that I am capable of loving someone.  The thought of eternal monogamy is pretty terrifying though.  But I guess I’ll figure it out.  Just not quite yet….

I haven’t been posting a lot because I have been so busy lately.  I have a ton of new students and I am trying to give them as much time as possible before I move back home.  I will be living in Nashville for 6weeks to 6months.

Nothing is really decided or permanent, but I am just putting out feelers in every direction.  I am applying for uni jobs all over the place.  From my hometown to Oman to Japan.  I am just putting out feelers. My main project right now is to put the Nashville lair back together.  There is a yahoo group that is just disjointed.  I have set up a new proper forum at http://www.TennLair.com .   Hopefully I can get all the guys connected and pour a ton of training into my hometown.  It is gonna be really great to see what I can put together.I am also setting up some new online projects based that are taking up a lot of my online time.  I am working on some marketing things and really just trying to learn how to convert my website.  I would really love to get tons of copies of my ebook out into the universe. I am really not sure where the next phase of my life will take me, but I am trying to take on of Tynan’s really good posts to heart.

I am selling off nearly everything that I own in my apartment here in London.  I want to really pare down all the crap I have.  I would like to be able to pack my entire life into the trunk of a car. I will try to share the debauchery of my birthday party after this Saturday with you as well.

I have just finished my MA dissertation.   It is at the printers right now and I will be picking it up Tuesday morning and handing it in.  The I am 100% done with that forever!!!  I get my grades and degree in November.  I am really excited to be finished but now it’s time to look at the next phase of my life.

I have a few challenges that I am grinding through this month.  I am back on my diet/training regime.  This includes no soda, no bread, no fast food of any kind etc for 3 months.  It also includes no drinking for the next 3 months.  That one I’m really struggling with.  I am certainly drinking WAY less after my last period of no drinking.  I really wanna tighten up my fitness kick so I am gonna try to grind.

I am also going to try to not masturbate for a whole month.  I just deleted all the porn off of my computer.  Holy crap I had 65gigs.  Man that is a ton.  I hate to watch the same video more than once…  Anyways I actually deleted it all as a challenge.  I really wanna tighten up my game this month and I think this will help a ton.  It also leads me to my next challenge.

I am going to study a new guru for a month, every month for the next season.  I haven’t set an end limit on this challenge.  I DO know that I am going to start by studying Mehow this month.  I know a lot of people don’t rate him, but October does.  And for me that is more than good enough.  I just wanna get deep into my game and go more technical again.  I am good but I want to get amazing.

I can only focus on 3 challenges at a time in my mind.  So these are my current ones.

A few weeks ago I was covering for another teacher at this uni I have been teaching at. I did a 1on1 4 hour English lesson with this super rich Kazakhstani dude. We were chilling. Basically unlike most douche bag English teachers I can talk to rich people about normal things like badass high end clubs and beautiful women. So we connected and I almost got him to buy a table at Jalouse through my homey. I gave him my connections number there and thought I would never see the dude again

last week I got asked to cover all 3 days with the dude. Of course! It was badass. He realized that the uni is crap and that an mba from there won’t actually help him, so all week we just chilled. He took me out to lunch all three days, gave me a carton of parliament ciggies, invited me to visit his homeland to hunt wolves and asked me to come to a high end brothel with him.

This last one really freaked me out at first. I was like isn’t this a moral decision? I guess only if people find out. I gave him a tentative yes, but then I texted like 5 of my friends. They all offered to go in my place. So then I talked to my house mate. I figured if anyone would talk me out of it, it would be him. He was like go for it. It seems like a badass experience.

So we meet and jump in a taxi right at 7. we saw from the website that this is when all the girls start their shifts. He originally wanted to go right after out lesson at 2, but then there would only have been 2 girls there. A big part of me was nervous about him paying etc. but I just put that to the back of my mind and did something I normally would never do.

We get there and have to pay this creepy dude 20 pounds each to go inside. There is a locker room, steam room, showers and a sauna. Hence the fact that the sign calls it a sauna. We have to go into the locker room and change into towels. It’s obvious we have never been there before as we keep getting lost. Then we don’t know if we keep our boxers under our towels.

Finally I am like fuck it let’s do this and I just skin up. He does the same. We go into the lounge. By lounge I mean room with 18 pros staring at us. We are nervous as shit. I don’t know why he is bc he has been to dozens of these before. So he tells the girls that I have low self confidence. It’s kinda funny. I gauge the reactions of the girls to see which ones I’m afraid of. Haha

it takes us about 10 minutes to choose the ones we like. Basically only a few of the girls were actually cute in my opinion. I got this blond girl who looked Russian. She was really stunning but actually Spanish. His girl was Brazilian. This meant they could talk shop in Spanish. Fair enough.

We go up to the vip room and man it was one small vip room. We could never be more than 10 feet apart. He of course pays for everything up front, including an hour with the girls. The total cost from walking us both in to partying for an hour was 690 pounds. He just paid cash. I think he was really intent on impressing me. I think there is something cool about taking your English teacher to a hor house. I certainly wasn’t complaining.

It took a few minutes to get going, but then it was on. She just threw a condom on me and started blowing. I’m sitting in a chair next to my boss getting the same action. It was so cool. After all of my previous group sex experiences, close proximity to another dude fucking doesn’t affect me. They moved to the bed while I got a badass bj. It actually wasn’t the best of my life, the mouse was still better. Maybe I should tell her?

This girl was definitely the hottest girl I’ve ever played with. She had beautiful natural breasts and just everything was smooth and nice. After a bit we joined the other two on the bed and started fucking. We did a good set of positions. My boss finished after about 20 minutes. I was like dude? We are on the clock!

I smashed my girl for a good 30 minutes and then gave her a 5 minute break. The other girl was like dude wtf are you doing you’re going to break her! And my boss was like fuck! My girl was like I can handle it ok! Aahahah. The best part was a bigass mirror right in front of the bed so I could see myself smashing this girl. I could really see how much better shape I am in. I still got 5 more kg to go, but that is another blog post. Hehe.

After a little break we got back too it. Soon she was covered in my sweat and body hair. I shed like a damn golden retriever. Oh well. She did make me do about 90% of the work and every time I slowed down she was like come on baby you’re not tired are you??? she got on top once per session for like 2 minutes. I mean I know she probably had 10 more dudes to go that night, but seriously.

At one point she did say something telling. She said that it’s really hard for girls in her profession to ever find guys. They just have no ability to trust men anymore. I think this has a lot to do with my boss being married with 3 kids and not so much about me. But I think it’s reasonable. With what I have seen of women in the last 2 years a lot of my beliefs have been shattered.

So I slammed this girl for the full 60 minutes. She kept saying how bad she wanted me to come. I wonder if she gets in trouble if I dont. I almost got that impression. So finally I came at the last possible moment. It was awesome. She was like wtf? That’s not very much milk for so much work! I was like I’m not a cow! She loved it and laughed and repeated it.

I think that was the one moment where she actually thought something was funny. Like the real her happened, but only for like 5 seconds. I am not stupid enough to think that we had a real connection. I have read about a lot of guys paying pros and then trying to game them. The only way to make a girl on the game like you more is to pay her more money.

Overall my experience was awesome. I felt so relaxed. It was really nice to have sex without a load of bullshit. If I was rich I would definitely have a new vice. I mean amazing sex with a beautiful woman and she doesn’t give you shit afterward. After all the shit I have been dealing with lately with other girls in my life, it was just so refreshing.

I felt so relaxed afterward and I ran some supertight sets as well. Both sets are still texting me and I have a date with one tonight. I never thought I would pay for it, but this year I had been considering it. Just as an experience, so when it came my way I did it.

I just spent a weekend with my man October, and with how much fun that was I realized I fucking love real girls and pros aren’t a replacement.

This is probably the best movie for people in the scene.  It is simply amazing.  It really shows the way a guy can interact with his oneitis, the way he controls her without realizing it, the ways to escape your past and the power of friendship.

I hate the title of this movie and that kept me from watching it for a long time.  It is designed to catch the attention of teenage girls and I believe that is the intended audience for the movie, but the film is simply awesome.  I am not going to break down the plot there.  The truth is you will either trust me and watch this movie or not.  It still blows my mind how many guys want to get good with women, yet refuse to watch The L Word.  I have been screaming the name of that show for a full year now.  I bet you haven’t watched a single episode have you?  I don’t think anyone should be allowed to complain about escalation until they have watched at least 3 seasons.  It’s simply necessary.

But this movie is amazing at showing the power friendship can play in social dynamics.  The sweetness of this movie is really inspiring.  If you want to really understand how relationships blossom in a dynamic way, watch this movie.  It is really powerful and moving.  You will learn a lot about all of the other prerequisites of game too, don’t worry.  It has a ton of frame control, shit tests and locational comfort.

Like I said, I watched this movie for the 2nd time last night.  There is about 20 minutes I would like to cut out of the movie, as one character is just really annoying to me.  But I skip through her  scenes and it’s fine now.  I think the most powerful lesson comes from the last lines of the movie.  The girl says “Are you sad that we missed it?” and the boy responds with “We didn’t miss it.  This IS it.”

He is so right.  Often we are so unable to live in the moment as we focus on what isn’t happening in our lives.  Concerts are awesome.  I love them.  I go all the time.  What is really important is the emotions we share and the impact we have on the world.  I recommended this movie on the London forum recently.  Something tells me a lot of guys are missing this amazing movie.  And that is a shame.  Because this is it.

It took 2 weeks of high angle text game to get a date out of the Author.  She has amazing blue eyes that pierce right through me.  I made some serious tactical mistakes in setting up the date, that will reveal themselves throughout the story.  I finally got the date when she said to meet up on Friday.  Of course Friday morning I read my man Tenmagnet’s post on Dating Amushes. This is one of the best articles on dating and date mistakes I’ve read in AGES.  I should not have let her set the date for Friday night.  It messed up my chance to meet and chill with the legend, Zan.

So we meet up at 7pm on a Friday night.  She looks amazing, except for she is rocking a mustache.  This is my personal pet peeve for women.  I have have really been paying attention since this date and a LOT of women are rocking cookie dusters.  I try to ignore these things, but damn hers was pretty much a Tom Selleck situation.

To be honest I was able to put it aside and plow through the date.  I don’t really have the strength to go through moment by moment of what happened.  Basically she spent the whole night picking at my frame.  I am used to major frame assault and tests.  Waht I am not used to is this tactic.  For example, when we went into the 2nd bar of the night I didn’t offer to pay for her drink.  I just don’t roll like that.  The girl has a high paying mayfair job and can support herself.  I don’t pay for a girl as it sets the wrong frame.  I don’t mind doing rounds like normal people.

She is like I guess you’ve never dated a French or Italian girl have you???  I was like what?  I have definately made out with both kinds. Hehe.  Anyways I was pushed onto my back foot.  All night she dropped hints about how she likes to date good-looking French snowboard instructors.  Actually, even writing this story is starting to depress me, but it’s educational so listen up!  So she kept pushing about how it’s classy to pay for a girl etc.  After her badgering I was like it’s 2 pounds to shut this girls mouth.  We need to focus here.  On a first date she was henpecking me.  I was doing something I didn’t want to to avoid a confrontation.  I should have stopped the date right here.  It’s a clear sign that she is a horrible girlfriend.  This tactic will only get worse.

Now I have already mentioned that she brought up her good looking ex-boyfriends about 8 times.  I never talk about exes on a date.  It’s a weird way of trying to demonstrate preselection.  I don’t need to do this.  I have an awesome life.  I can ignore a girl making comments about other guy’s being good looking a couple of times with no affect.  But she did it enough that it put another crack into my frame.  This girl was insidious.

Third, I told her I didn’t want to talk about work.  I really hate spending an entire date talking about my coaching etc.  I told her that I’m a writer and a life-coach.  I just didn’t want to spend three hours talking about pickup coaching.  For me it just makes a date boring.  So I changed the subject 30 times and told her again I don’t want to talk about work.  She would keep shifting the subject back to my work by asking a new question.  She just basically interrogated me constantly.  And when I would ask her a comfort-building question she said are you gonna ask me questions all night?  When she made this comment it would poke against my frame again.

Now individually I can handle each of these attacks. I have strengthened my inner game a LOT over the past 20 months.  Now I wasn’t ready for this type of frame war.  She came in softly, softly.  I didn’t realize any of this until I spent the rest of the night analyzing why I was depressed after my date.  I normally am happy after a date.  I love spending time with pretty girls.

Now if there is one thing I hate on a date more than anything, it is awkward conversation over a huge ass dinner table in a brightly lit restaurant. Guess what.  She needled me into that situation.  She forced us into having a bad date and then when it was bad blamed me for it.  She wouldn’t even kiss me and left at 10 to go to bed early.  I was never gonna text her or think about her again but she wrote me a huge text 2 days later.

So I waited a few days and decided to let her know that we are on two different pages.  Her text back was a frame assault on long the lines of “Of course we aren’t on the same page…”  This girl was a master of frame control.  In a way I respect her ability.  It’s just too bad that she uses it for evil.

So please take a lesson from my horrible date.  She boiled me slowly like a Frog.  Just took my frame 1% at a time.  The night before our date, I thought about canceling when she mentioned work early on Sat.  From now on I will cancel if I sense any trouble!

BTW drunk texting is so 2000 and LATE!  High texting is where it is AT!!!