The life of a pickup artist is complex. I have been thinking a lot lately about why people want to deny what they are. I work with a lot of other guys in the seduction industry who say they aren't pickup artists. As far as I can tell, these tend to be the more dishonest guys in the community. I feel like if you teach routine-based pickup as a profession, you are probably a pickup artist. So why lie about it?
It seems like it's just become trendy to say you are not a pickup artist lately. It's some kind of anti-The Game backlash. Like the term pickup artist is becoming more mainstream and well-known so people now want to be called dating coaches. Like it's anything different. I am proud of what I am. I hated my life as a loser. So I admit it. I am a pickup artist. I love going out to bars and meeting and seducing beautiful women.
If being surrounded by stunning and amazing women is a crime, then please slap the cuffs on me. You can read my entire journey on this pua blog and you can see how much my life has changed. There are a few major changes coming in the near future that are gonna blow your minds. I am going to expand the number of people I am working with as well as move to paradise, so stay tuned.
And remember, never be ashamed of what you are.
I always tell me students that it's important for them to start their own blog. There are a couple of reasons why it can be really useful.
1. It is one of the top ways of debriefing after a night out. You can review all of your conversations and keep track of where you can improve.
2. You can track your progress. Sometimes after a few months of game, you forget where you came from. Sometimes you can feel like a night out was a failure. If you read your reports from a few months earlier, you can really see how far you have come!
3. Other people can see your progress. Your wings can see what you are working on and give you helpful advice or encouragement. Your posts can also inspire other newbies.
4. As you become more successful, fans can see where you come from. A lot of guys meet me and think that I started off at my level. By reading this blog, you can see that I started nowhere. If I can come so far, then so can my students.
5. Reading a good post is always awesome. I subscribe to 7 other blogs that I enjoy reading.
No matter what level your game is, it can be really useful to start your own pua blog.
This is one of the most common questions I get from all of my students. I will keep it really simple for you.
From a Distance
If a girl looks at you and makes eye contact she is attracted. You are looking for it to last just 1 second longer than normal. Most people think that a woman needs to stare at you for 30 seconds. But it isn’t the case. Another thing is if a girl looks at you, looks down and then looks up with a little smile. This is a VERY strong sign she is attracted and you should act immediately. If a woman stands near you, it is a sign she is probably attracted to you. Especially if she is standing near you with her back to you. She is standing near you to provide you the chance to talk to her, but she is facing away from you because she is shy and doesn’t want you to catch her looking at you too much. [More]
This is an issue that seems to elude most men’s understanding. It’s very simple and very powerful. If a woman sees a man talking to other beautiful women, her attraction to him starts to increase. But why is this?
1. Status – women are jealous of women that are more beautiful than them. If a woman can steal you from a more beautiful women, she will feel her status has increased.
2.Power – powerful men get beautiful women. If a beautiful woman wants you, then you must have power. Therefore she wants you to.
3. Mystery – even if she has already talked to you and dismissed you, if a woman sees other women talking to you and smiling she will start to wonder what it is that she doesn’t know.
4. Safety – if other women are friends with you or comfortable around you, then you must not be creepy and weird. This is actually very powerful.
All of these elements come together to build up her attraction for you. So even when you are talking to a beautiful woman in a bar and it’s not going well, just smile and act like it is when you walk away. Other people will make assumptions that benefit you. Believe me, women are always watching.
So often we focus on doing attractive things when we meet a girl in a club or on the street. We miss the traits that are truly attractive. I wrote in my book all about my 3 core elements of attraction: Honesty, Passion and Self-Confidence. I don’t want to go over those again and again. Instead I want to look at the next layer of attraction with you for a moment. This layer is based upon some of my recent seductions and experience.
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This is probably the best movie for people in the scene. It is simply amazing. It really shows the way a guy can interact with his oneitis, the way he controls her without realizing it, the ways to escape your past and the power of friendship.
I hate the title of this movie and that kept me from watching it for a long time. It is designed to catch the attention of teenage girls and I believe that is the intended audience for the movie, but the film is simply awesome. I am not going to break down the plot there. The truth is you will either trust me and watch this movie or not. It still blows my mind how many guys want to get good with women, yet refuse to watch The L Word. I have been screaming the name of that show for a full year now. I bet you haven’t watched a single episode have you? I don’t think anyone should be allowed to complain about escalation until they have watched at least 3 seasons. It’s simply necessary.
But this movie is amazing at showing the power friendship can play in social dynamics. The sweetness of this movie is really inspiring. If you want to really understand how relationships blossom in a dynamic way, watch this movie. It is really powerful and moving. You will learn a lot about all of the other prerequisites of game too, don’t worry. It has a ton of frame control, shit tests and locational comfort.
Like I said, I watched this movie for the 2nd time last night. There is about 20 minutes I would like to cut out of the movie, as one character is just really annoying to me. But I skip through her scenes and it’s fine now. I think the most powerful lesson comes from the last lines of the movie. The girl says “Are you sad that we missed it?” and the boy responds with “We didn’t miss it. This IS it.”
He is so right. Often we are so unable to live in the moment as we focus on what isn’t happening in our lives. Concerts are awesome. I love them. I go all the time. What is really important is the emotions we share and the impact we have on the world. I recommended this movie on the London forum recently. Something tells me a lot of guys are missing this amazing movie. And that is a shame. Because this is it.
It took 2 weeks of high angle text game to get a date out of the Author. She has amazing blue eyes that pierce right through me. I made some serious tactical mistakes in setting up the date, that will reveal themselves throughout the story. I finally got the date when she said to meet up on Friday. Of course Friday morning I read my man Tenmagnet’s post on Dating Amushes. This is one of the best articles on dating and date mistakes I’ve read in AGES. I should not have let her set the date for Friday night. It messed up my chance to meet and chill with the legend, Zan.
So we meet up at 7pm on a Friday night. She looks amazing, except for she is rocking a mustache. This is my personal pet peeve for women. I have have really been paying attention since this date and a LOT of women are rocking cookie dusters. I try to ignore these things, but damn hers was pretty much a Tom Selleck situation.
To be honest I was able to put it aside and plow through the date. I don’t really have the strength to go through moment by moment of what happened. Basically she spent the whole night picking at my frame. I am used to major frame assault and tests. Waht I am not used to is this tactic. For example, when we went into the 2nd bar of the night I didn’t offer to pay for her drink. I just don’t roll like that. The girl has a high paying mayfair job and can support herself. I don’t pay for a girl as it sets the wrong frame. I don’t mind doing rounds like normal people. [More]
Easy to say, but let’s be honest – Hard to do! If you can overcome jealousy, it will change your life. Don’t be fooled into thinking I have conquered jealousy, but I have certainly beaten it back. A few years ago I was a level-1 jealous dude. I hated anyone who talked to my oneitis. It was a deep fiery rage. I thought she was banging all these dudes behind my back. (of course she actually was….)
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For me this show was such an addiction. It’s basically mindless drivel. I used to listen to it on the train, while I was playing video games and just when I was walking around the city. It’s not evil or anything. I don’t have a problem with the filth etc. Like most people who complain about this show do. It’s something else. [More]
For the past 6 weeks I have been on a training program. I am following the Body for Life workout program for my weight lifting. I am halfway through the 12 week program. I am really on track with my workouts, but now I want to take my diet to the next level. I reported on my progress stats last week. I am very happy with my results so far, but now I am at the point in a diet where I used to fail. I have several challenges that I need to work through. I drink a lot on the weekends and my diet slips. When my mates are out and ask me to join them for a meal, it is hard to say no. I am working on this and I have discovered something really helpful.
This exercise site is really useful. I only started yesterday, but I was able to enter all of my old workout stats into the trackers. It keeps track of every element of my diet now, as well as calculating my workouts and progress. I really love all the graphs it has to show how well I’m doing. Now that I am recording my food as well as my exercise, I am automatically being more strict. Every elements of my profile on there is public. People can see old pictures of me topless, through ones I took just last Friday.
If any of my friends join this site, and I hope they do, they can be my “gym buddy and track my progress and we can compare all of our stats. It turns all of this working out into a type of video game/stat tracking experience that I enjoy.
It also has a really good meal planning facility. I think the next level is to plan my meals each day. It’s a little boring, but I think it’s quite good. I also started walking a little farther to a Sainsbury that has a huge selection of turkey, which is my favorite meat. Well I love duck too. But I prefer turkey burgers to beef burgers and I love turkey sausage.
Anyways, the main purpose of this post is to suggest this website. It’s really good and helps you to motivate, especially if you have a computer style mind like me. Let me know if you join, so we can be gym buddies.
Another great feature is Twitter integration. I am really into automating aspects of Twitter, such as aggregating my blog every 5 posts, which you know if you follow me. You can set up how often you want it to auto-tweet. I have it set up to Tweet whenever I hit a goal. You can have it annoy your mates every time you workout if you like!
