So I am chilling on Saturday morning and my phone starts blowing up.  gsand wants to meet near Waterloo for some day game and Tea Bag is going into central for some costume shopping.  I throw on my clothes, get wicked high and meet gsand.  It takes ages to find him.  We meet up with 7/11 after a bit too.  Walking up and down the boardwalk for two hours, no hotties.  Bad luck.

Then I cruise up to meet Tea Bag and my damn bus gets diverted.  So annoying.  We finally link up and mess around in a few shops then grab some sweet Chinese for lunch.  He tells me about a party he's going to where everyone dresses up like it's a bad wedding.  Super eighties style.  The vibe is amazing and the girls are so cool.  So I text my student and my lesbian sidekick and tell them tonight is gonna be wicked.  My lesbian can't make it as she needs to rest and ironically spends the night having "the talk" with a girl she is only mildly interested in.  Shame!

I am like thirty minutes late, but when I get there the party is awesome.  It is at least six girls for every guy.  My student is hating it for some reason, but I force him to stay and he gets laid.  But this story is about me. Ha!

The first smoking hot girl I see at the bar.  Wow.  Short.  Brunette.  Piercing green eyes.  Sexy black hat with lace.  Perfect body.  I tell him to open her and her friend.  My student hesitates and the friend just raises her arm and points right at my face.  I think there is no way anyone is that rude, she must be pointing behind me.  So I step to the side.  The finger follows me.  So I step forward and dive in.  They are two super cool girls and immediately are loving me.  I chat and chat.  There is someone throwing the bouquet so I tell the brunette to go win it.  Unfortunately, a guy in a dress gets it because he is so damn tall.

I don't see her again for a while.  So I meet a blond who looks like Clair Danes.  Everytime I tell my student to open a girl, she sees him hesitate and opens me.  This is one weird magical venue.  I was loving it!  I see that they won't take this girls card.  So I just say, they don't take card here?  She goes no, come with me to the cash point.  I had been trying to get my student in and I couldn't think of a way to get her to go with him instead of me.  So we went and chatted.  She was really sexy.  She mentions a boyfriend she lives with and asks if I'm gay in the first five minutes.  It's nice to get the bs out of the way.  She is like amazing you have to date my sister.  I walked onto the set of beauty and the beast.  I won't describe the sister, but that is enough.

Me and Clair Danes slip away and hit the dance floor for a bit.  It's nice.  I met a third girl who was standing next to me at the bar.  Don't really know what I said.  But hey I'm LondonPaladin right?  Plus I looked amazing.  Everyone was complimenting me on the new way I did my hair.  I think I will be doing it like that every time I leave the house from now on.

I'm going to be honest with you right now.  There were several smoking hot girls I didn't talk to that night.  I was simply overwhelmed.  Also, I'm the kinda guy who locks into one set for a night.  Rather than get like 6 numbers.  I was more like that a year ago when I was running traditional MM game.  Now that I'm really doing what's natural for me, I like to just focus on one girl a night.  Just my personal style.  So these other two girls were just to chat with and have fun.

Over the course of the night I kept seeing this one big dude chatting all over my initial brunette.  I didn't feel anything.  No jealousy or stress.  I saw her with him and my thought was ok, she's busy I'll chat to her later.  And whenever I would see her and her friend the pointer, I would rock up and dance.  We danced alone at several points during the night and it was just nice.  There is something about dancing with a beautiful woman that I enjoy.

So during this night I am also teaching my student about kino and escalation.  And eventually he leaves with his girl and I am damn proud.  Also I keep chatting and having a few drinks with my man Tea Bag.  He is having a blast with his girl. And also some of his other friends.

At the end of the night I'm outside chilling with the doorman who basically knew my be then because I kept coming outside with hot girls.  He was cool.  I see my beautiful girl going back inside.  She comes up to me and says to wait and she will be right back.  That's kinda cool.  She takes ages and I finish my smoke, so I go back inside to chat to my friends.  I see she is talking to the big dude again.  So I go dance with my friends in a position where I can see her.  So that when she leaves I can see her outside.  The old me woulda been praying not to see her kiss this dude.  I mean I don't know if I would have changed anything if they had.  I mean I kiss tons of girls.

So when I see her heading for the door, I beat her and we chat and chat.  I am leaning against the wall and she is close.  We are chatting and I'm trying to extract.  She has work the next day etc.  I keep pushing for it, but it's just not quite there.  We are both close, but I'm not sure.  Then TeaBag and my mates come out and surround us and just watch.  From like 1 foot away.  TeaBag just says to her that he loves watching me talk to girls.  I could have killed him, if I hadn't been doing so well.  We were connecting and I didn't react so it didn't matter.  I mean from the outside it's a pretty funny move.

I get her number and it takes like 10 minutes.  I think my phone might be on the fritz.  Anyways, we get it all sorted and go back in to dance.  At one point I drop my final escalation bomb.  And she likes it.  I try to kiss hew a few times, but all I get is cheek.  It's fine.  It's just a matter of when.  Eventually she has to leave.  I rarely get numbers, but this one felt pretty solid.

Thirty seconds after she leaves I call her and ask if it's too soon.  Hopefully, she realized how funny that is.  She said to give it a few days, so I'm gonna go old school and wait til Wednesday.  I think I am gonna shift my call style back.  These days I always text the next day.  More so I can remember which girl is which, but I think I need to start calling and waiting longer.  Either way, I had a beautiful experience with a stunning and intelligent woman. Safe.

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Beeballer wants to stroll around old town and we can’t wake up Soul.  Se we go clomping out into the rain.  It’s miserable out.  We take the Subway and they let us ride free both ways because they think we are idiots.  Hey whatever works!

We get to old town and trudge in the rain for a while.  Then we finally hit a cafe for lunch.  We are sitting there and Beeballer sees a cutie he likes.  Her friend keeps looking at him, so he just walks over and asks them to join us.  We are still both a little rough at Day Game conversation, so the conversation is a little stilted.  Beeballer doesn’t quite know how to take everything where we want to go, but the girls are clearly into us.  We bounce them outa there to shop for some souvenirs.

In the shop I indirect open the two smoking hot shop girls.  They are laughing and loving me.  Beeballer comes up and they really love us both.  The girls we walked in with are across the shop now.  I buy a magnet for my pivot in London and we head out with our orinigal girls.  They want to go across town to do some shopping in central.  It’s clear we are invited.  I’m not attracted to my girl and I just don’t wanna spend the day watching these two girls shop, so we cut them loose with a facebook close.

We head back up the street talking about the hot girls from the shop.  And we see them outside smoking together.  We just walk over and tear into it.  They love us.  Kino.  Jokes.  Smiles.  Hugs.  We are building.  We facebook close them and they make us promise to come back by later in the day.  If we weren’t leaving town we could have instant dated them after work.  It was a really good set.

We run around some more, just tons of walking in the rain with me complaining about being lost.  We make it back to see the girls with fifteen minutes before we have to run off for the airport.  We try to isolate them, but they stay together.  We go outside for a smoke and I try to escalate outside my comfort zone.  My girls calls me beautiful at one point.  I use Rokker’s new technique of wide rapport and really build a cool connection.  I can’t get the kiss, but it still goes well.  We bounce off with lots of hugs and talks of them coming to London or our next trip to Stockholm.  We’ll see what happens.

At the aparment, I add my girl on facebook, just in case I lose the paper she wrote her name on.  She adds me within ten seconds.  I will see if I can build the necessary online rapport.

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It’s something I really need to break through.  Fear is standing between what I want and what I have.  I really don’t like that.  Life really is about conquering fear.  Like in that terrible Billy Crystal movie ten years ago that nobody saw.  You just have to face it down.  The only thing I’m afraid of is damage to my ego.  My ego is the barrier between myself and my success.  I am in a war to destroy that ego.  It is really hard, but it is the next level.

So we head into my favorite store in Stockholm.  It is heaving with beautiful women.  Beeballer goes ultra direct on a shop girl.  She is insanely hot and just blows him out so hard.  Saying she’s engaged.  I got mad respect for the guy tho.  His first day game set ever and he decides to start in the circle from Thunderdome.  We stroll around some more and Soul runs some sets while we chill in the background.  In the mall I run an indirect set on a stunning shop girl.  It goes pretty well in the first phases, but I just fail to close.  Of course it’s a lot of progress that I walked into a women’s clothing store and just went for it in front of five people.  I am trying to continually push myself out of my comfort zone.

We head back home for a rest and just chill out for a little while and prepare our costumes.  We all look awesome of course.  Before we put them on we decide to pregame at a few bars and maybe bring some girls to the house party.  Needless to say the bar we chooses is filled with families and no cute girls.  We hit another bar as well and just nothing is hitting.  On the way back Soul opens a two set and then has me and Beeballer wing him.

We were so awkward and terrible I couldn’t stop laughing.  We just kept making the most boring conversation ever.  Somehow we weren’t able to blow the master out of set though.  When I am not warmed up the stuff I say is shocking.  I am literally worse than I was before game.  Just jerky comments and boring interview questions.  But hey whatever is clever, innit.

Soul was getting dirty texts from the girl all night.

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He finally gets up, we gets dressed and takes me into town.  It’s hard to believe how many beautiful girls there are here.  At first we are just strolling and getting used to the insanely cold weather.  But after a few hours of chilling and chatting, he starts opening sets.  For some  reason it appears to be Mother-Daughter thursday.  The first set he opens he has me walk up with him.  The girl is really stunning, but her mother is having none of it.  He really plows through and we are standing there for a good five minutes.  I just keep turning redder and redder.  I am so far outside my comfort zone.

We finally leave and go into a few more shops searching for belts.  My belts are now too big again and my jeans from LA are falling off.  I bought them three weeks ago!  I mean it’s great to be losing weight, but all y newest cool clothes won’t stay on my body.  GRrrrrr.  I checked out a scale and it sait i was 78 kg, but I think the scale is a little broken.  I will get a proper reading next week.

We bust into our next set and it’s a mother-daughter set again.  This time the girl is super tall and skinny.  She’s 19, so it’s not nearly as awkward.  I of course have to bring some Paladin level winging to the table and chat to the mom for what seemed like centuries, but turned out to be a mere ten minutes.  I just built massive rapport with her as we had tons of things in common.  Soul got the girl’s number and set up a group date for that night.  It was really impressive and pushed both of us outside our comfort zone.  There are so many things that stop us when they don’t need it.

So Soul has been opening for a while and I really need to step up.  I am having crippling AA and I keep trying to break through it.  I go into some shops and run my indirect jazz on the girls there.  I have no problem doing this, but it doesn’t affect my total fear of going direct.  Finally Soul calls in a local dude to join us.  He is just an opening machine.  Soul talks to him before he meets me.  The first thing the dude says to me is ok, let’s start asking girls the time.  It was super humbling.

I was like I’m not that bad, I’ve done this before I’m just having a super off day.  So we roll into a huge shop that is now also my favorite club.  He keeps opening sets with me and walking away.  Really helping me out in a cool way.  The funny thing is that he keeps opening the set next to the one I like.  We joked about that later.  It doesn’t really matter.  Because we are in a shop, I start running tons of indirect sets and having a really lovely time.  I escalate harder than I normally do and really push for a close on one girl that is clearly massively attracted, but it just doesn’t happen.  At least I pushed.

We walk around some more and finally with Soul and this dude, I open a girl direct.  She was stunning and I could taste my fear.  Her eyes lit up when I told her shew as beautiful.  It was so hard but so amazing.  I stayed on course and started finding logistics and trying to move forward.  She dropped the boyfriend bomb on me and finally left, but at least I moved forward.  Soul gave me a huge hug and I felt better.

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I used a lot what I learned from Seb Drake and Adam Lyons today.  I really focused on low variance teaching to minimize the risk of ill-behaviour and when they started talking about religion I cut the thread to keep tensions down.  I ended the class by playing a 30 minute version of the question game in order to build deep rapport with the students.  It was really great and hopefully made the Turkish kid feel more a part of things.

After class the head of school was shocked at my experience.  Maybe it’s just really understanding ShaneGame that got me through.  I was unreactive when the kids talked too much in Hebrew, took too long for their break and ate in the classroom.  I don’t want to be their enemy.  I am a really laid back teacher and I stayed low variance.  It wasn’t as exciting as my high variance teaching, but it was smoother.

After class, I ran some game on different employees to make them like me if I have to come back here ever again.  Then I went out to hunt down my first meal of the day.  Now my weigh in with Hunk last night was atrocious.  He ordered me to start writing down everything I eat again for the next two weeks.  I really shouldn’t have stopped in the first place.

So I kept walking past italian restaurants and hamburger shops.  I am trying to avoid carbs and unhealthy food.  Finally I found a hippie cafe.  I had a lovely sandwich and a fruit smoothie.  One of the ones with just ice and fruit juice in it.  As I  am taking off my tie, I open the lady at the next table.  She jumps at the bait and we talk for 20 minutes.  She tells me about her son that is my age, how she was a fashion teacher in London at a university and about her Japanese religion.  It was really interesting.  She was nice.  I think her son might be a great connection for me.  I am going to email him tonight.

After Adam’s insanely good talk last night, I am more focused than even on developing connectors and pushing my DJ career forward.

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So today so many things happened.  I had that crazy night last night.  I forgot to shower this morning, so when I got to the talk at Mr M’s.  Nobody wanted to sit near me.  I don’t know how I didn’t notice.  It was blazing hot today so I kept re-sweating.  Needless to say I saw insane amounts of beautiful women on the street, but I continue to have my limiting belief about smelling like a sewer.  For some reason.  So after the talks end, I throw on my giant pack and head towards home.  Of course, the tube is packed to the gills.  I have to take 3 trains instead of the usual two and I keep ending up near girls I want to open, but it is hot down there and I have a massive stench.  The trains are all running late and a 15 minute trip takes 40.  I finally get to the main train station in the hopes of getting back home at a reasonable hour.  I have 20 minutes til my train.  Plenty of time to buy a ticket and grab a snack and a cold drink.  Not if your name is Paladin.  The ticket machine eats my credit card and goes OUT OF SERVICE.  Holy crap.  I am standing there and a barrage of idiots keep trying to push past me to use the broken machine.  I am literally astounded.  Sweating.  Wearing a heavy pack.  A guy goes to get help.  Train station workers apparently don’t have radios here yet.  Amazing.  Even kids at the Gap are wired up these days.  Finally a guy shows up to open the machine.  It takes ages.  He has to reboot the machine twice, but he finally gets my card back.  Then I have to buy my ticket from this other dude, lest the machine eat my card again.  It takes ages and I am waiting forever to sign the little slip of paper.  I see that somehow I have 7 minutes til my train.  So I go into the little shop for a drink and a sandwich.  I am so hot n thirsty.  There is an entire summer camp in there.  And a smoking hot brown girl.  I am not kidding.  Today was so sexy out.  I squeeze past the kids and grab a sanwich and a drink and fight my way to the back of the line.  In front of me, every person pays with exact change.  I mean the linke is 15 people and the dick up front is counting out pennies.  I watched five guys all keep staring at their watches and then go and do the same thing.  Sweating.  Stinking.  Agony.  So I see this really cute girl a few people in front of me.  I wanna talk to her so bad, but I am just struggling not to smell myself.  Another cashier walks up the the empty till in front of me.  I am in luck.  He logs in to the register.  Then he just starts counting the money in it.  There are over 30 people waiting for 2 registers and the guy just ignores everyone.  I look to the front and I see more exact change being meticulously counted out.  I am watching the clock.  I am in the middle of a war between my hunger and my stench.  I finally get to the front with three minutes til my train.  And the guy starts sorting out the coins in his register.  Some got mixed up.  He doesn’t even look at my face.  Finally he manages to ring up my two items.  I am waiting ages while he finally takes the fiver out of my hand.  I quickly race to my train.  1 minute to go.  I am there!   But my train has left early.  I have another thirty minutes to wait.  I find a bench and sit down.  I eat my sandwich and just try to relax.  I am the first one to the train when they announce the platform.  I find a seat three cars in, in the hopes that I will be left alone.  Of course this is not my fate.  An old lady comes and sits across from me with a giant bag.  She blocks me into my seat.  I just want to sleep in my own stench.  Will she grant me that?  I can only hope.  Then a station dude walks a blind guy onto the train.  The guy needs to sit in the seat next to me.  Of course.  I am blocked in.  The old lady doesn’t want to move her bag.  I say old but I mean a bitter mid-40s.  I am getting no love.  I want to escape, but I can’t.   I would have to shove through the blind guy.  He wants to put his backpack on the shelf above me.  There isn’t room.  So I get up and move my bag over to help him.  I am stuck here for 40 minutes.  How did my empty seat in the middle of the train become the worst place?  I have no idea.  I just want to get home and shower so bad.  I feel bad for the blind guy.  His sense of smell is heightened.  Like he hasn’t suffered enough.  He gets off at the station before mine.  So for five minutes I get an awkward free train ride.  Then I am home.  Finally.  And people can still ask me how I use situational openers.

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In Coven Garden I see a pair of cute Japanese girls.  I get Optimistic to ask them for directions because they have a map out.  The map is of course in Japanese, so I immediately start asking questions in Japanese.  They were really great.  We chatted to them for about 10 minutes.  They didn’t have mobiles yet, so the girl I liked wrote my number down in her little book.  We messed up setting up an instant date and ejected too soon.  This was my fault not Optimistic’s.  I have never gamed in Japanese before and I’m still really not used to day game.  Even though I’m starting to have some really good success.  So I really need to focus more on the goal and pushing pushing pushing.

The only other good set worth remembering was one girl.  I was standing there with like 5 pickup dudes when a really beautiful girl walked by.  I ran after her and just told her that she was beautiful and I couldn’t let her walk by without telling her.  She really loved it.  I got the reaction that Soul always talks about.  A big part for me is that I only open girls I’m really attracted to during the daytime.  I chatted to her 2-3 minutes, which is quite long for me.  She asked me where I work, which is a huge sign she’s attracted.  I kind of failed to get her number or push for an instant date, but after she walked away I felt really nice.  Sweet inside.  I could tell she’s the kind of girl that I want to meet.  I have determined that my two main attraction triggers beyond the physical are honesty and sweetness.

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So I’m on the train with Keychain. He and Optimist each opened a street set.I chickened out. And I’m supposed to be the instructor. So we go up and down the train and don’t really see anything. I see one dark girl with black hair, but she’s asleep and there is a bag on the seat near her.We get to the end of the train and can’t find nothing, so we finally end up making this dude give up his bag’s seat. I am sitting directly across from her. I am semi-attracted, but I have never run a “sleeping set.” So I am just telling Keychain about game and my life etc. He’s a new project rockstar dude and I’m helping to record that event a lot… Anyways, we are across from this girl a good 20 minutes, but I’ll be damned if she wouldn’t just wake up! I couldn’t tell if she was listening in to our conversation, but I also didn’t care.

Then my hero the conductor shows up! And look who didn’t have a ticket. She is like I was in a rush and I really wanted to buy one. In broken English, and you know how I feel about that. I start making faces at her that the conductor can’t see. I open about her being a bad girl. But at least she was honest about when she got on the train. I chat to her a bit. My game wasn’t super tight, but I was friendly. I at one point was like you should hang out with me and Keychain. He was basically being  silent. So later on I said that he gets really quiet around pretty girls.  Then the train stops and Keychain runs off to let me be alone with her.
I just shake her hand and leave abruptly too. Mostly because I wasn’t sure how attracted I was. I struggle with this sometimes. I run up to Keychain near the stairs and I have to go up them and he is going the other way.

So I say later and she is there going up them too. So I reopen with
are you following me? We chat more walking on the bridge. Nothing special
really! But I was just vibing really hard as I was in state. We get to the exit. And I hug her goodbye too push the kino a little. It’s a little awkward as I am deciding if I want her number. And she is like can I give you my number. She pulls out her pad and writes it out. Really sexy to me. And then I double cheek kiss her and say goodnight. I could have pushed for the instant date I guess, but I am damn tired. I just texted her and we’ll see how it goes. But overall I’m pretty pleased.

Now I am really attracted to her because she closed me. She was able to really ramp up my attraction and now I can’t stop thinking about her. Interesting how personality is so important.

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