With my trip to cancun a week behind me, I can begin to look back and reflect on a week in the sun. so many things about my life have changed. I am definitely gonna get more nlp in my life. That session blew my mind big time. It has really stuck and I have worked out three times this week. Really every weekday since I came back to london. Even when i’m working out and starting to flag I pinch my trigger and it pushes me through. I can now run a 5k in under 40min and I feel electric. I was topless for all of cancun and I really didn’t care. I would have taken off my shorts too. I feel no association between my body and my self image. It just doesn’t matter. My trip was better because of it. I met some nice girls and really the important lesson is what I learned about myself.
I really don’t like american girls. It makes sense. I have lived most of my adult life outside of america. There is a flaw in the culture that really bothers me. There is this obsession with the superficial that goes even beyond me. I met a couple hundred girls last week and none passed my initial screening question. When I ask a girl what she likes besides work, I don’t want to hear drinking, partying or shopping. It makes me suicidal. How can a person bring nothing to the table? Then again I probably said the same things when I was 18. I think that if I met ten-years-ago me we would hate each other. Although we would look pretty similar.
The best part of the trip was making connections and building up friendships. I got to spend one on one time with HiRoller for the first time. He is such a maniac. Really a sound guy. Now I want to go to Oslo so bad just to spend time with him. Really I am tempted to pursue working for LS just because of the guys. They are all such legends. He had the most amazing stories about his crazy life in oslo I can’t even tell you. Spending time with mr m again was good. Sometimes I forget just how famous etc he is. I mean i’ve known him for a full year now. And I am not even similar. He played such a major role in my forging that I think he’s proud of the changes i’ve made in my life.
We spent some time together along with Braddock and it was just cool. This year I am all about inner game. Nothing else matters. My technique is flawless. It’s when my sense of self, my core, slips that I lose the girl. Now I have a long way to go to bring it all home, but things that used to rock me don’t even matter.
The best part of the trip was going to playa del carmen. Mr m trusted me with his most important students. I was with three students and midnight cowboy. Now i’ve known him a little since last summer, but i’ve not spent time with him for real before. The guy is insanely good. In two years that’s where I want to be. He asked me to use my first opener on a girl. She was one of the most beautiful girls i’ve ever spoken to, if not the most beautiful. I walked up and asked who lies more, cats or dogs? She was norwegian so I had to repeat it. I dont think she ever understood, but she told me she likes dogs. We talked on and off for 30 minutes. Honestly, I did quite well, but I slipped. I kept thinking I have nothing to say. This should never happen. When I ran out of things to say I was just quiet and calm. I didn’t freak out. Anyways, there is no point going into too many details. She was lovely and really sweet and made me love the kind of woman who lives in mexico for a while.
The students had an amazing night and I tried a new exercise with them. I think it’s money for teaching internationally. One of the students told me that two girls definitely spoke english so I opened them and rolled into my standard material. The first two minutes are always the same for me. It’s only phattic communication so it doesn’t really matter anyway. I’m rolling through and the girls don’t speak a word of english. I think that’s so funny. I just keep going and saying what I would always say and using the same body language. The girls were reacting perfectly. I brought in a different student to translate for me. Now for some reason he kept thinking I was talking to him, so the translation was a little off. Not his fault. Just a miscommunication. This beautiful mexican girl was loving me. Laughing and smiling. All the signals you want to see. Unfortunately, I could feel I was about ten percent off. Rather than let it slip away, I ejected with the intention of returning. Of course I never saw her again.
The students all had an amazing night and were opening anything and everything. They had such an amazing time that the other students and teachers all went to playa the next night. By the end of the night the students were loving the translation game and they were bringing me girls. I met an amazing girl at the end of the night. I see the cutest girl working at the last bar as a glass collector. My student runs over and tells her in spanish I think she’s cute but i’m too shy. I underestimated her.
When it comes to verbal ju jitsu, I can usually hold my own and I am rarely defeated. I just have the gift of the gab and years of training. This girl was so slippery. I could feel the conversation just out of my reach. She was using frames better than most guys I know and trapping me. She walks up to me and speaks perfect english, including super tight slang. She’s like I speak english. But most shy guys turn out to be the worst in the end. Suddenly she reversed my shy move! Now I have to defend being shy, which i’m not. I was stuck. I was pretty drunk so I was thinking a little slow. Which is really all it takes. Then she starts talking about how she hates when guys try and use money to get her. She was like I have my own job and I don’t need anyone to save me. I was like good news! I ain’t rich. We chatted and chatted, but I couldn’t get the date sorted. Her next day off was when I was flying off to london again. Nothing to be done.
It just goes to show that underestimating people is a mistake. Too often I do it to myself and I need to work on it. Overall mexico was amazing. I have changed a few things in my game. I am getting closer and closer to just opening with hi, i’m paladin. But i’m not quite there yet. The real lesson is that i’m now traveling the world and making friends with millionaires and it’s whatever. I am learning to fit into any social situation. I am constantly growing and I can feel it. Mr m told me that he and braddock can see how different I am and they now enjoy being around me even more. I’m in the middle of my journey, but I would never go back.
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