Moving from London to Nashville was more than just a little bit of a culture shock. Dating in Nashville is really strange for many reasons. In Nashville there is a major religious structure in place which dominates a lot of how women view dating and their own sexuality.
Girls that grow up in Nashville are either extremely conservative or extremely forward. There is very little in the middle. Many of the women here simply don't know how to act around men. They think that the answers to all of their problems lie in a long term relationship. Just today I got an email from a girl on a Nashville dating site explaining why she would never go out with me. In my profile I said that I don't want a long term relationship unless it's with a really amazing woman. She said that she doesn't like that. She wants a guy who ALREADY wants a long term relationship.
This means she wants a guy who just wants a long term relationship, not a guy who wants a long term relationship with HER. This is really needy and actually made me sad. She is going to end up with a guy who is just settling for her. And she will just be settling for him.
There are some really good things about dating in Nashville though. When you meet a normal girl who isn't obsessed with a long term boyfriend or getting married as fast as possible, you meet some of the nicest women in the world. Girls here are way friendlier than in London. It's easy to start conversations with most women. The real challenge is that a lot of local women are really just boring. I have met a lot of women while I have been dating in Nashville that just want to stay in Tennessee forever. They can't imagine ever leaving the state.
I just don't find xenophobia attractive.
But it's not just the women here, many of the men are ignorant too. Last week a guy got in my face and accused me of being gay while I was in Cookeville. It was clear from his body language that he wanted to fight me. This was right after he watched me get the phone number of a very attractive bartender. So ignorance is gender neutral around here.
As in any city, when you are doing some Nashville dating, you have to sift through a LOT of coal to find those diamonds. There are lot of people who have moved here to pursue musical or artistic dreams. These are the best women around. They see beauty in the world and they know how to express themselves. And unlike a lot of the other women in this town, they know how to be not-boring. And really that is amazing.
The other challenge to dating in Nashville is the architecture of the city.
It seems as though Nashville was designed to make dating a challenge. Most people only go out one night a week in Nashville. In London people go out 3-4 times a week. That means they meet people 200 times a year in London and barely 50 here. And yet these same people wonder why they are alone on Sunday night. If you want to start dating in Nashville, you have to go out more often people!
The reason people go out so rarely is that challenge of finding a good venue. There are 3-4 good areas in the whole city for bars and clubs. And they are a real challenge to get to. You have to drive downtown, struggle for parking, pay for that parking and then pay just to get into a bar that might only be half full. Then you have to drive 30 minutes home at the end of the night. So there is always the whole designated driver issue.
I only plan on staying in this town for a short amount of time and I have enjoyed it here. I will help as many men as I can learn the skills of dating in Nashville. That is my main challenge. I have met dozens of beautiful women in my time here, but it seems like the dating in this town is years behind a lot of other cities.
Good points, but I'd like to also add that in my experience Nashville is simply not really a party town at heart. There's a big music scene and about 30+ colleges in the area, but a large segment of the population just prefers to stay home and not go out much. I don't think it's any coincidence that the girls you meet in Nashville during Day Game than during Night Game are as different as day and night (chuckle chuckle).