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So often we focus on doing attractive things when we meet a girl in a club or on the street. We miss the traits that are truly attractive. I wrote in my book all about my 3 core elements of attraction: Honesty, Passion and Self-Confidence. I don't want to go over those again and again. Instead I want to look at the next layer of attraction with you for a moment. This layer is based upon some of my recent seductions and experience.
Frienship
This one should be obvious, but it seems to be lacking in the community. We are so obsessed with getting laid that we only hang out with wings instead of friends. We are alpha men who only align with other men for the purpose of ravaging the villagers of pussy town. Although an alliance can be really powerful, there is something disingenuous about this relationship. Women can detect things that we don't really notice. I make a point of only hanging out with people that I actually like. All of my wings are my friends.
When I introduce my friends, it isn't an "accomplishment introduction." I just like to brag about how awesome they are. I like to do awesome things with my friends. Tomorrow I am leaving for Global Gathering with YumYum and Iceberg. These are my two clubbing buddies and I am excited to just be hanging out with them and fifty thousand of my closest friends. Girls see us together and our energy is simply different. Instead of an uneasy alliance, we have actual friendship. Girls can sense this and find it attractive. If I walk up when YumYum is talking to a girl, I wouldn't be surprised if he just pushed the girl out of her chair to give me a place to sit. This is why girls like him so much, even though he is a proper bastard.
Loyalty
I wish that I didn't have to make this a section. It should just be understood to be a part of friendship, but let's be honest, most guys will set their best friend on fire for the mere possibility of some grade A tang. We've all been guilty. When it's on with a girl we tell our friend to fuck off. You've done it. LondonPlayboy did it to me at pride a few weeks ago. I do it to friends all the time. It is important to demonstrate the importance of your friends to a girl. When you are in the beginnings of an interaction, this is very important. Once she is good to go, obviously you can isolate.
When you first meet a girl and your friend walks up, she is paying close attention to see how you treat him. Believe me. Think about how she acts when her friends walk up. Their is a strong possiblity of screaming, hugging and she might just run off to celebrate the arrival of her friend. So next time your friend walks up, show the dude some love. Act like you are glad to see him. When it hits the fan, it's gonna be his number your dialing. Not her flakey digits.
The girl I'm with this week has mentioned more than a few times how impressed she is by all of my friends. Everywhere we go I have people close to me. Whether I am hosting a table at Jalouse or walking through Covent Garden. I take time to talk to my friends, I leave her alone to talk to them and I even leave her alone with them. Which around some of the guys I know here, is really saying something. When you see your friend with a girl, you should do everything you can to help him. Even if what you are saying is cheesy. One of my mates told my girl how I had taught him English and it was amazing last Friday. The guy was clearly British and joking, but she was attracted to the effort!!
Improbable Teasing
A lot of you guys seem to have some understanding of this concept. The whole cocky funny thing is good. But this is a deeper level of comedy that I am talking about. You want to joke about really safe things. My girl is from a town of 120 people in Czech Republic. So I joke with her about werewolf attacks and how many goats I should offer her father in exchange for her. How many goats and silver bullets is she worth? These jokes are so outside the realm of reality that she doesn't get offended, she gets attracted.
This type of teasing is more useful because the calibration comes from the meta level. Once you pick the right topic, you are pretty safe. Joking with a girl about being dumb or whatever is ok, but you have to be super calibrated. If you have the high value of Friends and Loyalty, directed teasing can be high risk. The class nerd can tell jokes that the class jock can't. Jokes from a high value person can be hurtful. As you get better at life, your value will increase.
Fashion
We all understand that fashion is key element to good game. If you want a break down of the individual elements for yourself, talk to my man Dr. Yen. This section isn't just about your fashion, it is about hers. Once you are well dressed, you need to be able to identify when a girl looks good or bad. Recognizing fashion mistakes is a powerful weapon in the battle of the sexes.
I always compliment a girl on a specific piece of fashion. For example, I saw a beautiful girl on Friday that I hadn't seen since the night I got her number a year ago. Logistics kept us apart. I noticed a lot about her outfit and when we were talking a few days later, I mentioned how sexy her arm band was. Most girls don't wear them, but I think they are awesome fashion. She was blushing over msn. And she told me. Why?
Girls work their asses off to look hot before they leave the house. Even a gorilla can tell a girl she looks hot. So a specific compliment that you can actually mean because you have more than a rudimentary understanding of fashion is very powerful. If you look right, then she will really respond. I meant the t-shirt and blazer look is fine, but you need to do more than that. I actually get a few fashion compliments a week for my various looks. That is how I know I'm finally on the right track.
Respecting something a girl worked hard on will earn you a ton of points. You are giving her something she can brag to her friends about. Also you will motivate her to look hot.
The Protector
I avoid violence pretty religiously these days. Except when I'm in the ring at my kickboxing gym. I don't ever get into fights in clubs and I pretty much never get amogged. I am an island in the ocean of life. Girls are attracted to that of course. But more important is how I treat my friends and the women in my life.
It is basically impossible to start a fight with me. I just don't care. But if you were to roll against one of my set, everything would change. The fact that I am willing to stand with my friends is very attractive to women. It demonstrates that I am actually part of a tribe. This ties into the first 2 topics here. I am actually friends with the people I go out with and I am loyal. Try actually caring about your friends and using them for more than just a pivot.
I won't hang out with anyone I wouldn't get into a fight to back. It separates me from a lot of people out there. And it is powerful and atavistic. I also protect the women in my crew. The other day I was chilling with a girl who knows a lot of guys in the scene. She came with me to a high end club last week. She met a sexy couple and had thought about going home with them, but was a little worried about the danger elements. I told her that she should have just told me. I would have checked them out. I would have told the dude that if he hurt my friend I would break his feet with a hammer. Now I don't condone violence but people aren't allowed to hurt my friends.
The girl thought that was awesome. Violence/strength in the right context is very sexy. I retold the story to another girl and her attraction spiked, hard. Consider thinking of women as people. It's really valuable. It is a dangerous world out there and it's important to make them feel safe.
Conclusion
By mixing these elements on top of core attractive traits you can take your life to the next level. When you are well dressed and able to give effective opinions and compliments women will respect you more and be more attracted to you. When she sees how you treat your friends, she sees how you will treat her and her friends. These are all powerful elements. Also, these are all things that will make you into a good person. Please post any questions.
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