How to Attract Women : Dating Tips: Organic Seduction – A PUA Blog

Today I was feeling a little down.  The bank is taking ages with my student loan check and it’s messing up my finances you know?  So I was on the phone with the whole bank.  It’s been three weeks and they said it could be another five.  Had to talk to my dad on the phone.  Anyways, it will sort out.  Then I was talking to one of my friends from Austria and it reminded me of how they made me paranoid about my body.  And then a girl pops online.

I met a smoking hot girl with Stickler a full year ago.  It was the first time I met Sheriff and I remember every detail of the set.  The girl was insanely beautiful and we were working her and her friend.  Then her boyfriend came back. I just ignored her and talked to him.  We even got some pics of all three of us.  I got her facebook and emailed her.  She is one of the hottest girls I’ve met in the last year.  [More]

A lot of guys spends years “learning pickup” online.  They can’t quite clock on to why, after years of reading, nothing has changed.  I sometimes run into these guys in London and it makes me really sad.  I get caught up wishing I had more progress than I do, but I would be devastated if I was doing something for years with no progress.  They lack the ability to see exactly why they aren’t getting any better.  There has been a recent debate on the forum for London that put this in my mind.  The forum wants to keep “commercial guys” from posting.  So they are doing everything they can to keep those guys from posting advice or offereing free seminars.

Now this is totally illogical.  It means that most of the really skilled people will stop posting on that forum.  I already have.  I will post my advertisement there once a month, but that’t it.  It is clearly a case of the blind leading the blind.  Guys with low ability want to give each other advice.  And the want to keep quality advice from me and the guys I look up to, off their forum.  It’s sad more than anything else.  I noticed the guys leading the charge againt the professionals happen to be the worst guys in all of London skillwise.   Some of the guys posting have been trying to learn about women for 4 years and still haven’t gotten a date.  It makes me sad.

So now you have a little background.  Lets live in the present.  I got good with women faster than most of the guys out there.  Now I do know some guys who got better faster than me and I know what they did differently. I will start with things NOT to do and then work into the things you should do.

1. Stay off the internet.  After a few months every guy who is getting good realizes that advice online is usually worth what you pay for it.  Most of the guys who post on forums and websites are keyboard jockeys.  They spend hours online giving advice based on little or no experience.  I see this every day on the London forums.  A constant slew of bad advice and new guys just can’t tell.

2. Don’t read every ebook and watch every video.  You should start off selecting one system or method as your foundation.  Obviously I recomend my system as it’s the easiest one to learn that I’ve encoutered so far.  You want to simply stick with your first system for at least 2 months.  It will provide you with a foundation and as a beginner you don’t need to try everything out just yet.

3. Don’t give advice.  It’s easy to read a few ebooks and articles and go out with your mates and spend the night coaching them on what to do.  All you will do is make your friends good.  You only have authority when you are teaching people what you have already mastered.

4. Get a good wing.  This is crucial.  Hang out with guys of equal or better skill who inspire you.  Guys who motivate you to approach and talk to women.

5. Go out 4 nights a week.  Every week.  For six months.  This is my number 1 secret to success.  Nothing you read or watch will ever match the value of infield experience.  You need to learn by doing.  There is no other choice.  So do it.

6. Do 2000 sets.  After you have approached 2000 women you can start to assess your system and methods.  The first 2000 do not count.  Remember that it takes time to change your body language and behaiours.  It just does.

7. Don’t hang out with guys who don’t make you better.  If you have friends who are discouraging you, don’t hang out with them during this crucial time.  When we are changing is when we are most vulnerable.  Your normal defensive shields will be down and comments that used to no bother you will now cut to the quick.

8. Cycle upward.  Reward yourself for each little success along your journey.  You have to retrain your brain.  If you punish yourself for what you didn’t do, you will add years to your learning process.  If you can reward each little step along the way though, you will learn so fast.  Talk to your fist girl.  Be proud.  Got a number, celebrate.  Etc.

These are some of the basic steps for getting better with women fast.  I got into more detail in my ebook obviously, but this should give you some basic foundational concepts.

So I decided to run a test to see how smart people have to be to read my blog.  This is more than a little fascinating.  According to this, you need between a 3rd and 7th grade education to read my blog.  Since my target audience is guys with good normal intelligence, I think this is acceptable.  I am going to run my blog through a ton of tests to get this sorted.  I want to really make sure everything is great for you guys out there. [More]

So I am 3 weeks into my 12 week program.  It’s hard to judge exactly where I am.  I have only lost about 2.5 kg over three weeks.  Part of that is due to sustaining an injury and only working out last Monday.  I was in the gym today and I set a new personal best on the treadmell.  I hammered out a 5k in 36:32.  This is about 3x slower than the world record.  So there is a lot of room for improvement.  But that really isn’t my goal.  I think this weekend I will do a proper race with my house mate.  I don’t think I can beat him, he’s was born in good shape.  But I’m not gonna tell him that!

After my run today, I lifted my Body4Life routine.  It is a strange pyramid formation and not that many exercises.  But it takes me around 40 minutes to complete.  Mostly because I’m slow after the run.  Today I really pushed myself and could feel my muscles straining.  I can feel myself getting stronger.  [More]

So I finally decided to upgrade my Twitter after nearly a year.  As usual I upgraded because I got jealous of my good friend Soul’s blog.  I helped set his up last year and I still think it’s one of the best looking ones out there.  Plus hes got such killer content.

I followed the procedure to the letter and upgrading should have taken about 40 minutes.  With all of the file deletes and transfers.  Something was wrong with the config.php file they told me to keep from my old version of wordpress.  I posted for advice on the forums and then I scoured the wordpress site and finally decided to put my database info into the new version of the php.

Not really sure why that made such a difference but it really fixed all my problems.  There are gonna be some more of these happening for a few hours here and there over the next week.  I am trying to do it all during the middle of the night.  My main issue right now is some html errors in the wordpress or template code.  I think this is why I am having issues with technorati.  I hope I don’t have to change templates….

I have been an avid reader of a lot of blogs since I started studying the dating sciences and it’s time to point out the highest quality blogs out there.  I was originally gonna make a top ten list, but there really aren’t ten blogs out there worth listing right now.  Some of the ones I was really close to listing never get posted on anymore.  And really, who wants to read a dead blog?

5. Sinn’s Blog – Now if you read some of my old posts about when I met Sinn, you will be surprised that he made the list.  But this is purely about blog quality and the information he is constantly posting is simply worth reading.  He mixes in solid information about improving your dating and relationship advice with a dark wit.  Learning from him via the internet is just about the right amount of distance.

4. The Seduction Bible – I met these guys when I was out in LA and they were so sound.  They put in a good mix of information.  It’s not all just about pickup artistry.  They really know their stuff and are also great investigators.  It doesn’t hurt that one of the guys looks exactly like Paul Rudd.  They cover a lot of issues, ranging from being popular in high school to building an awesome life.

3. Pickup Podcast – When I first decided to start learning about improving my skills with women, I listened to their entire back catalog of interviews.  These guys are really amazing and know their stuff.  They even have the lovely Kim posting on their blog.  It is good to hear a woman’s opinion sometimes.  This blog is good and getting even better.  Great material to read and to listen to.  What else could you ask for?

2. Tynan – This guy was Herbal in ‘The Game’.  I read his blog more than anything else.  He just merged 5 different blogs into one central location.  This guy is an absolute legend.  His posts are hilarious and so informative.  If you really want to read someone who comes across as a sweet, sound guy then this is your place.  I have this feed sent directly to my phone and I check it constantly. He publishes a few times a week and I read every post.

1. Tyler Durden – The captain of the whole Real Social Dynamics ship.  He writes the deepest and most incisive articles on his blog.  Reading them will change your life.  Some posts take 20-30 minutes to read, but it is time well spent.  He understands human interaction in a deep and meaningful way.  This blog has inspired me to be a better person and it will do the same to you!  If you want to improve how you feel about yourself and deal with life, click that link.

Special mentions.  There are some other blogs that I love that are currently inactive and that kept them off my life.  Of course Tucker Max.  I also wanted to include growyourgame, daHunter, Rokker and a few others.  If they start posting again I may just make a bigger list.  Enjoy!

We have all been there.  One minute everything was perfect, the next your life was shambles.  She’s gone and you have no idea why.  Now you are missing work, sitting on the floor unwashed and listening to radiohead for days at a time.

Now that you’ve broken through the self-pity phase, it is time to analyze what went wrong.  The first thing you should realize is that you were missing signs all along the way.  Most of us do it.  Small things happen and we just ignore them or rationalize them away.  She’s late all the time because of traffic or problems at work.  She isn’t in the mood as much anymore, but that happens in all relationships.  She seems distracted, it must be her time of the month.  And a million others. [More]

A lot of guys think that it’s hard to meet women in London.  They think its easier in America or smaller towns etc.  It just isn’t guys.  It’s time to stop making excuses and get out there.  London is great.  You can travel together much easier and you never have to deal with car logistics.  The man thing you need to do is realize that normal conversation is key.  You just want to talk to women the way you talk to your friends.  Don’t put a woman on a pedestal.  When people recognize me and act strange around me, it makes me want to run away.  So just walk up and say something simple and friendly.  “Are you having a nice time?”  is a great way to start a conversation at the bar.

Now is the time to meet people outdoors as well.  You can simply start a conversation in the park or walking down the street.  For now, let’s focus on mindsets instead of the mechanics of the interaction.  Just realize that no woman woke up thinking “I hope I don’t get swept off my feet today” (That’s from Hitch)

So go out into the sunshine.  Nobody ever found love sitting at home.  Meeting women on the internet isn’t nearly as fun as meeting women in real life.  The first step is to start talking to strangers.  So go places where you feel comfortable.  Speed dating can be a lot of fun.  It is a really good way to practice meeting new people.

Join a club.  It is a lot easier to talk to people who have similar hobbies or interests.  Whethere you join a running club or start rock climbing, the most important step is to get out there.  Just commit to turning off that TV and the computer.  They are draining the life out of you.  I recently went to a talk in central London.  I thought that it would be interesting to hear someones take on the economy and having a successful life.  I met a really great girl there. I just walked up and said hello.

So believe in yourself and get out there.

1 – You lie to your girl.  This includes anything from cheating on her to lying about going to the strip club.  there is nothing healthy about lying.  It is a sign of cracks in your relationship.

2 – She yells at you.  You feel like a child being chastised by his mother.  In any disagreement, you are in the wrong.  This is a sign that your relationship lacks parity.  No one likes an uneven playing field.

3 – You yell at her.  You feel like a father chastising his child.  You can’t be in a relationship with someone you don’t respect as an adult.

4 – You don’t trust her.  You have a sneaking suspicion that she is keeping things from you.  You need to bring this up with her sooner rather than later.

5 – You don’t enjoy sex anymore.  There are many ways of stating this.  From you don’t feel like it that much to she doesn’t feel like it that much.  Maybe it’s just not exciting anymore.  Find a way to spice it up or get out!

6 – She uses sex as a weapon.  She witholds to get her way.  Do you want to be a slave with a ring through your dick til the day you die?  Cut the cord now.

7 – Your friends don’t like her.  The woman in your life should fit into your life.  Don’t let her push your friends out and don’t push your friends away on your behalf.  You don’t want to be cold and friendless when she dumps you.

8 – You are afraid to be alone.  The majority of people in relationships stay there because they are afraid of being alone.  They expect another person to give them happiness.  She can’t fix you.  Only you can.

10 – You want to change each other.  She wants to change you.  She wants you to get a better job, new friends and change the way you dress.  She gets mad when you ask why she wants to change you.  Most girls want a fixer-upper.  Don’t let this be you!

So I am working really hard right now.  To expand this blog and my overall business.  I have taught a ton of 1on1 lessons and from that and my own experience I have developed an ebook that I am more than proud of.  It is at the graphic designers in India now and hopefully I can have it all up and running in the next two weeks.  Things are really taking off for me and I am trying to design the blog in a way that is really user friendly.  Hopefully, I can find the happy medium between useful and interesting.  I want people to have the options of digging my posts etc, but I don’t want the little links to be eyesores either.  So during this time I am open to any feedback from my readers.  I am in a phase of expanding my readership again, so I want everything to be perfect.  So there will be little tweeks and changes coming and going as I work my way through this.

I am also working on my other books at this time, as well as some serious papers for my MA course.  I am finding it pretty hard to focus on everything right now.  I am also 2 weeks into my major diet and I think it’s going ok.  I had some setbacks over the weekend, but I feel like I am back on track now.  It’s hard to maintain complete control of my diet.  As soon as I slip, I can’t stop slipping.  So I need to stay super strict.  My friends keep talking me into cutting corners.  It’s my own fault really, but I just have to keep working on it.

So in the end, I am hoping that I can turn this blog and my ebooks and teachings into my career.  At least for now.  I like helping people a lot and I have developed some quality products.  Thanks for your support.  Now I will try to get back to dirty adventures as quickly as possible!!!